(Closed) Feeling overwhelmed with fiance' baby mother drama

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Is there a court order in place? I recommend having him actually file for visitation, then the mother has no say over what happens during his parenting time. She sounds like a real peach. BYE FELICIA.

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

If you are in the U.S. he does not have to put up with this to see his daughter–he can work through Friend of the Court (or a variant) to establish a visitation schedule. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

He needs a lawyer and court ordered visitation times. Letting this woman control your lives is crazy.

Post # 5
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1527 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Yeah I am confused as to how she’s enforcing supervised visits. Did he never file paternity?

Post # 6
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267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Cellar 222

She seems unhinged and I would let the courts know. She’s volatile, racist, and controlling. Your fiance needs to wrap things with her up before ya’ll get married and I’m not sure she should even be around your child or your future step child (although there’s not a lot you can do with the last one).

Your Fiance has got to take action. Now. Sorry you’re going through all this.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 4 months ago by  rainpeliever.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

lilyshining:  Document, document, document EVERYTHING. Put a recorder on your phone (or his) that will record all calls from her (check to make sure you’re in a one party consent state). We are going through something similar now, and my Fiance started off filing pro se (without representation) though we now have a lawyer. If you want to PM me and tell me what state your in, I might be able to help a little. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

lilyshining:  this sounds like the best way to handle it is to go through the courts and present your case. She cannot tell him that she needs to be part of the visitation and she is blackmailing him and becoming hostile towards you. This is not a healthy environment for any of you and your Fiance never should have allowed it to go this far.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

lilyshining:  Look up law schools in your area. My husband is in law school and the school runs legal clinics that work pro bono (free) with clients with a variety of legal issues, including custody. Yes, the person you’d primarily work with is a law student, but they are supervised by practicing lawyers and professors and (at least at my husband’s school), they accomplish a lot in the realm of custody, housing, things like that. And it’s definitely better than trying to fight this on your own!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You don’t need a lawyer to get a court ordered visitation schedule so long as paternity is established.  Judges will not deny a father visitation (or even grant supervised visits) unless the father has demonstrated that he is unfit in some way.  Tell him to get to the courthouse and file!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Girl, you do not need a lawyer to get visitation. You just go to court. The only way you may need a lawyer is if the mother has ‘evidence’ that he has been abusive, etc. to his daughter. Other than that, the court will grant him visitation and no lawyer can stop it. He needs to stop being so passive about this.

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