Post # 1
Is anyone else getting pressure from family to get thank you’s out rightaway. It has been one month since my wedding and i have not sent the thank you’s yet (except for gifts received prior to) because i want to do postcard thankyous with a picture of us on our wedding day and am waiting to get the pictures back from the photographer. Ideall i WOULD have sent them by this time but i just don’t have the pictures back yet and i don’t just want to send out generic ‘thank you’ cards to everyone. My grandmother and my grandmother in law have both sent e-mails (to my fiancee’ and myself) saying ‘so and so hasn’t received their thank you yet’. I tried to gently explain the type of thank you cards we are doing and why it is taking a little longer but they don’t seem to understand have told me i should just go ahead and send out plain thank you’s and worry about the other later. I will be blunt- i don’t want to pay the postage for both. I AM doing that for people that sent gifts before the wedding just so they won’t feel jilted that some people got ‘picture’ thank you’s and they didn’t but I really don’t want to spend double the amount on postage. Is this poor ettiquitte?
Post # 3
Well personally I’d rather get a Thank you a little late then none at all. I attended 3 weddings last summer and only got 1 thank you note. The one we did get didn’t even have a note from the bride and groom,just thank you printed on the bottom of their picture. I always think it’s nice to hand write a little note so it shows that you put a little thought and effort into it. We wrote 75 thank you notes for gifts that we recieved at our housewarming party, yeah it took a little while but it was the proper thing to do.
Post # 4
oh we are definately hand writing! and specifying what was received and how it will be useful, meaningful, etc to us. (well i am writing actually the hubby’s handwriting is totally illegible). I just didn’t think 8weeks max past the wedding was ‘late’. I guess like you I have been to several weddings and NEVER gotten a thank you and then also been to some where it was a card with no personal inscription (not much better). I absolutely know thank you’s are a MUST i just wasn’t aware there was such a specific time frame to have them out by. I did know for gifts received before the wedding you should have them out no later than two weeks after the wedding.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2018 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
I would DEFINITELY rather get a fun, postcard-style thank you with an actual picture from the wedding than a generic thank you note. And if it came later, I would not mind AT ALL. I am STILL sending thank yous out and our wedding was 2 months ago! Our friends and family know we had the wedding, graduation, moving, and studying for the bar so I’m sure people are fine with it. At this point I’m sending thank yous out for gifts received after the wedding, so that’s not so bad, right? 🙂
Post # 6
I sent my thank-yous out around 1.5 months after the wedding. I thought I was totally on the ball! If you’re feeling the pressure and there’s no photographer pics in sight, maybe you could use a non-professional photo of you two from the wedding as part of your thank-you note?
Also, not everyone’s thank you has to be the same. You could write the thank-yous your grandmother is nagging you about right now to appease her, and send the rest of the photo thank-yous later. That would be double postage for only a few people, right?
Post # 7
I feel pressure to get my thank yous out too for the same reasons but I tell myself that photo cards are very common these days and anyone with a professional photographer will have waited around a month (or more!) for their photos, so I can’t possibly be off-base with my timeline. I think thank-you’s in general should be prompt, but in the case of a wedding I think people would rather a card with a nice photo from the day.
Post # 8
OMG, Ladybug, my mom asked me A WEEK after the wedding if our thank you notes were finished! We had been on our honeymoon and hadn’t even finished opening our gifts yet! Our wedding was a month ago and we’re about half way done with our notes. I figure, as long as people get them soon, it’s no biggie.
Post # 9
I’d send thank-you notes to your grandparents’ friends using plain old notecards, and then send photo cards to everyone else. Your grandparents’ friends won’t mind missing the photo cards — in fact, they probably won’t be used to them and would be happier with just a plain notecard. Plus, they want to know if their gifts arrived, which is a legitimate concern given all of the registry horror stories I’ve heard over the years. But it’s your call.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I think picture thank yous are so cute, and I really enjoy them!!! I’d rather get a picture thank you late than a paper thank you right on time.