Post # 1
I am still 5-6 months away from the wedding and I am already wishing that I had chosen to elope! Fiance and I have been together almost 7 years and we thought we knew exactly what we wanted, but in the end were told we couldn’t have that (wedding at FIL’s cottage). We searched hard and eventually found another lakeside venue, the owners are family friend’s of FI’s and made a big deal of stating they didn’t want to make a profit, etc. However, from the initial meeting until today things keep changing…prices, hidden costs, etc, etc….it seems never ending!
Then they act like it was us who got things wrong or that we shouldn’t have assumed certain things. Just man up and admit that you changed your mind and I would have so much more respect for you! God! I have spent much of today crying and it just seems like when things are falling into place and starting to work out another issue pops up and I am ground back into the muck. Why is this happening to me? And to top it all off my grandmother broke her hip and ended up in the hospital. *sigh*
Venue (when stating new charges again today) actually suggested today that I might want to have my wedding elsewhere!? How dare they?? It’s less than 6 months before my wedding! I am a depressed, moody, emotional mess….plus when these things keep popping up I have to rework the budget to try and add in the extra costs….I can only shift things around so much before it’s like trying to get water from a stone….
Agggggghhhhhh!!!!! And I have to be super polite to them since they are family friends so I can’t say what I really think which is that they are either
A: Sneaky and underhanded or B: Stupid hicks who should have done some research before quoting pricing for renting the venue or C: Both
I just don’t know what to think or feel anymore…I am so lost and confused and upset. I thought planning my wedding would be easy and fun, but it’s been a pain in my rear end since the moment he proposed (FMIL drama – long story). I just wish it would all go away, but deposits are down and it is too late now…..
Ladies, help me out…..it gets better, right???
Post # 3
Hug. I’m sorry things are going so crazy. I’m sure it will get better!
Post # 4
I think you should sit down with these people and work out a “contract”. It doesn’t have to be a “real” contract, just a list of what is included with the venue and how much it’s all going to cost with your signatures on the bottom. That way everyone is clear and you’ll know exactly what you need to budget. It sounds like these people just have bad business sense (which is okay since they’re not actually business people) and this wedding thing has become more trouble than they thought it would at the beginning. Just ask them to be clear with you.
Post # 5
It’s not quite as easy as sitting down with them since we are planning a long distance wedding, hence they are in Ontario and we are in British Columbia. We have tried to straighten things out over the phone and I am in the process of creating a contract of sorts so that no more hidden costs can pop up. I am just feeling hopeless and really wishing that there was somewhere else I could hold the wedding.
They also came out with some new surprise insurance costs too so now I have to choke down an extra $300 too. This is getting crazy…..I deserve this wedding after waiting over 6 years for him to propose – so why is it so hard!?
Post # 7
@Miss_Dr.Pepper: Wow, our wedding date is not having much luck!! I’m totally in the same boat. Just got booted from my contract today because our numbers surged their HOA policy. And we’re so close that there is nothing available. I would cry but I refuse to be defeated, damn it! lol
How are things going? What’s the update? *hug*
Post # 8
@WillyNilly: Ugghhh….maybe it’s just a bad luck day *lol*
We did end up switching to another venue and everything seems to be working out! *knock on wood* Still having Mother-In-Law issues – monster-in-law would be a better term, but I’m trying to breathe and get through it all.
How have things shaped up for you???
Post # 9
@Miss_Dr.Pepper: I know how it is with the in laws…. These last couple of months have been nice because we haven’t been nagged or been told how we should be doing things. I was event old once that his mother had a vision of the wedding she imagined for her son. Wtf? We had to stop telling her about our wedding because everytime, she would say it was not a good idea…but its what WE wanted. I could never trust them to keep obligations, so I do things myself. I hope things get better with your MIL!
Post # 10
@FutureBaker: That sounds rough! My Future Mother-In-Law started in right away, we didn’t even get 24 hrs in which to enjoy our engagement before the emails started. Long story short the saga continues, from our venue choice (not that we had much of one) to the Rehearsal Dinner she is driving me up the wall. Our venue is doing some renos and she showed up to view it unannounced on a Sunday – well of course it doesn’t look ready! But she went on and on and on for 3 days about it, regardless of what we told her. She even started emailing the general manager at the venue to complain…it was so embarressing!
Now they are hosting the Rehearsal Dinner and want to invite over half of the wedding guests to a formal sit down dinner where she wants to have a full turkey dinner…the night before my wedding! You have to be kidding me…plus I am HIGHLY allergic to cranberries, so one caterering slipup and it’s over! Don’t know what to do….but that’s another post altogether *lol*
Hope things get better for you because with a wedding date in 2014 you got a ways to go! *lol* HUGS of support!