- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Dude…this wedding planning stuff has been really hard I feel like on my fiance, and it hasn’t stopped, even a week before the wedding. Mostly, it has to do with his friends. Most aren’t coming to the wedding, understandable because they’re all broke and live far away. And ultimately it seemed like he was only able to rely on his groom’s party–3 guys and 1 girl.
So a few months ago, he was checking in with one groomsmen who hadn’t been in touch with him for awhile, who said that there was no way he could get off work and he couldn’t come. (He works as a dishwasher in a restaurant, so it’s not like his job is a super high level job, or something that couldn’t be taken off for a bit). So, fiance just I think said fine whatever, put it aside, and luckily found another good friend who was able to take over the role as groomsmen. (This I felt was better, as he has been a more loyal friend for awhile, and I think that was a good choice).
So with that all said and done, the past two months were up and down of him dealing with another groomsmen going back and forth about whether he could bring a date, someone neither of us like. But we basically said sure, but you can’t stay with us (due to practical reasons, not our dislike of her). This person kept going back and forth about whether she was coming, then finally said she wasn’t coming due to practical reasons. Until Friday when fiance talks to best man who mentions that in fact she WAS coming (groomsman never told fiance this). This is of course after final headcounts were in and money was paid. so we said we don’t know if she CAN come, and to give a final answer by Saturday, to which he said oh you need a final answer? And didn’t seem to understand that it’s a per person cost (you mean you can’t just bring whoever?) But whatever that got resolved, and after all is said and done she isn’t coming.
And then the last straw seems to be today–groomswoman sent fiance a text saying now she can’t come for two reasons that I don’t feel are totally good reasons. (One had to do with transportation and could still potentially be resolved…fiance sent her a text back, because I don’t think he feels ready to call her yet). But, yeah I think out of everybody, she was one of the most important people to him, and I think one of the people who he’s really going to be sad if she’s not there.
So…yeah. I feel so bad for him. He’s a really good person who is so dedicated and caring to so many people, and I feel like he’s not getting any of that back in return. I mean, I’m sure this has been this way for awhile, though the wedding planning has just really brought it out.
So sorry this is probably long. I just feel really sad for him, and I’m sure he feels bad about it, though doesn’t seem to really want to talk about it, which I understand. But…yeah. 🙁 Poor guy.