- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I have a big-ish immediate family. I have three brothers + a SIL and my parents are divorced and both in new relationships. For some background info we are all in different states – my dad is in Washington, one brother in Oregon, mom in California, another brother in Missouri, and another brother in Washington. I am currently in Virginia but moving to Texas in a couple months and the wedding will be there. My family very rarely gets together. Last time my dad had all 4 of his kids together was in 2011 for the first time in 7 years. I see each of my brothers maybe once every 18 months (separately), and my parents ~once a year each.
When I gave everyone the wedding info once we secured the date/venue, everyone was on board to come. I understood that due to traveling, it might not work for everyone, and was pleasantly surprised that I’d actually get to see everyone together. Well, I found out today that my brother in missouri and his wife probably can’t come, my brother in oregon probably can’t come, my mom has some substance issues and no one has heard from her in weeks and also realized she won’t come anyway if my dad + stepmom are there (plus she hasn’t responded to any of my info I have given her about the wedding), and my dad’s parents probably can’t come now. My brother in oregon and my dad’s parents can’t come because originally my dad was going to drive down and take my brother and his parents with him…well his wife refuses to drive and won’t let him drive alone and her fly. So bc of this I’m losing 3 very important people at my wedding 🙁 My other brother and his wife might not make it because of financial issues, which I completey understand – she is still in school and he can’t really miss work days.
I guess this news just came at a really bad time. I’m living with my husband now, but i just recently moved across the country from California and know no one. I work from home, and go to school online so I have no way of meeting anyone. We are going to be moving to TX in 6 weeks anyway so I can’t really branch out or try to meet people and I’m just kind of depressed because I’m in his house with none of my own stuff here (I’ve been living out of one suitcase for 6 weeks…all my stuff was in another house where I lived with my ex-roommate when she got in legal trouble while I was on vacation bc apparently she had a drug problem, got evicted while I was gone, I lost everything I owned), no friends in this state, and pretty much nothing to do. I can’t even drive because I’m on medical restriction due to seizures. He feels really bad because of it, but it’s not his fault. I’m just really getting depressed.
I don’t really know what I’m looking for in posting this…I guess I just need some perspective? I know I’m extremely blessed to have an amazing guy and that once we move & start our life together things will get better. Finding all that out today was just kind of the straw that broke the camel’s back so to speak :/ I’m just finding it kind of hard to want to have a “big” wedding now that most of my family can’t attend; especially since we already did the courthouse things.