Feeling really shaken up for causing car accident

posted 3 months ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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810 posts
Busy bee

Ram1 :  Awwww, Bee! I can relate! You keep replaying the crash in your mind, and wishing you could go back in time, and prevent it. 

 I’ve been in 4 accidents over my life where 2 were my fault. You’re shaken and depressed for the first few days. Totally normal. The woman who yelled at you should have made sure no one was hurt, and directed her energy there. Your insurance will pay for her repairs, and yours too. The most important thing is everyone is OK.

I was in a bad accident on the freeway once, and a 90 year old man didn’t know traffic stopped, and ran into me at a high speed, and pushed me into a wall. My car was totaled, and I was fine, but when I went to check on him, he told me he thought he was having a heart attack. It’s possible that’s what caused him to not slow down. Luckily a highway patrolman saw the accident, and they got him an ambulance right away. That was so scary, and I felt so terrible for him. I actually wrecked my dad’s car in a cemetery! Always look twice before pulling on to the road! Haha. You’re still traumatized now, but I promise you everything is going to be OK. 

Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ram1 : 

I was about your age, had only been driving 2 years and I had a fender bender that wasn’t my fault.  If I had a bit more expirienced in driving, I’m certain I would of avoided being hit by the other cars mistake. I drive more defensively as a result of it and I no longer naively trust other road users to do the right thing like I used to.

I agree with  zzar45 :  This is a good lesson to you early in your driving life. It will make you a better driver. You will learn and not ever consciously make the same mistake again. Chalk it up to expirience and make better choices from now on in when on the road. 

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

As an Insurance Adjuster I see a hundred claims like this a week. They are called accidents for a reason. Let it go.

My advice… literally forget about it. I cant tell you how many times i see people getting in 2-3 accidents in a row due to becoming nervous while driving after the first collision. 

Understand that this happens all the time, everyone is okay and that’s all that matters. This doesn’t make you a bad driver, it just teaches you a little lesson. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Ram1 :  Sounds like this worked out for the best in that no one was hurt and it sounds like damage was minimal. It was an accident, it happens. Just be grateful that you and no one else was hurt. Some form of PTSD is a bit normal, particularly after your first accident. I had to drive out of necessity and hated it and was so stiff that it amplified the pain/trauma I’d experienced.

 

Unfortunately, I’ve been in many car accidents (only one of them was my fault, and that was a fender bender – very minor). If this happens again, keep your wits about you. You don’t need to be accusatory, but people will accuse you even when you aren’t 100% at fault. Be firm when it isn’t your fault. And always call the police to investigate. If you suspect you’re in any kind of pain, call the ambulance and have them take you to the hospital. And if you can safely drive away from the scene, do it. Towing your car away from an accident significantly decreases the value of your car. 

Post # 20
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810 posts
Busy bee

libellules :  I’m curious how towing significantly decreases the value. Towing a car does no mechanical damage unless the car is towed incorrectly.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

bearinabeecostume :  towing implies the car had significant damage and wasn’t drivable. Not from me. The last car I traded in was in an accident but we drove it away from the scene and the dealer told us that was good. Had we had it towed it would have decreased the value. Just an FYI he told us. 

Post # 23
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810 posts
Busy bee

libellules :  I’ve always towed cars using my roadside assistance, so the adjuster didn’t know (or care) how it reached the shop. Besides, your radiator could be damaged unbeknownst to you, and you could cause significant damage if your car overheated. If you’re unsure if it’s safe to drive, it’s best to call a tow. And damage is assessed by the shop, and sometimes by a field adjuster. So the damage is the same, regardless if it was towed or not. 

Post # 24
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94 posts
Worker bee

Ram1 :  Use it as a learning experience and move forward. I caused a much worse accident than that and that’s what I did. I was grateful nobody was seriously hurt and moved forward. I stopped texting and driving (even though that isn’t what caused the accident but I was doing a lot of that at the time) and vowed to pay a lot more attention. Let something good come of it and move forward.

Btw, the accident I caused totalled the front of my car and sent a brand new car careening into a stone wall. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

You both walked away with nothing but a small amount of material damage

Think of how much worse it could have been

My best friend was driving in terrible conditions one night on her way home from work. Rain, storms, wind, the works. She was going 10kph under the speed limit (it was 60, she was going 50), headlights on, doing everything right given poor visibility.

Then, an elderly woman stepped out in front of her (not at a crossing/traffic lights, it was in the middle of a busy arterial road). She jammed her foot on the brakes, which given the weather made them lock up. She skidded and hit the woman. She was in critical condition for weeks before she finally passed away. There’s nothing my friend could do – the police told her as much. It was a complete accident, caused by the woman’s failure to look when she crossed the road. A part of the road she shouldn’t have been crossing in the first place, given traffic lights a few hundred metres up the road.

Even though she wasn’t at fault, and the cops on the scene were wonderful in trying to calm her, she will walk the rest of her life knowing she was directly involved in someone’s death. It’s lucky she was driving cautiously, giving the woman’s family time to say goodbye to her. If she hadn’t, the woman would have died instantly. Not that I think that matters to her – she walks every day thinking she killed someone. The weight of that must be unbearable

Think how much worse your accident could have been. The best things is learning from mistakes and moving on. This is what insurance companies are for! To protect you in instances like this.

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