sepilove: I know this is an old topic, but I couldn’t help but comment. Are we twins? Seriously, you have NO idea how much I empathize with you! I work full-time, plus a part-time job, and go to law school full-time on nights and weekends. I literally spend the whopping 1 hour of free time I have each night, with my boyfriend.
I consider myself a great catch and have been told so over and over. I pay all of my own bills, I do not nag him or really expect anything of him. We split everything 50/50 where all my other girlfriends get spoiled and taken care of like a princess. Not to be arrogant, but I am very attractive. I fully support his dreams and motivate him to pursue them. I am graduating next month, then continuing my education at Duke Law School. I have been putting back thousands in savings every month so that we can move to Philadelphia in October to be closer to our families. I just paid off my Mercedes, have perfect credit, zero debt, no past marriages, no children, and virtually zero drama. I cook for him, take care of all the errands, etc.
I’ve seen girls that I know that are selfish, self-centered, abrasive, bitchy, bossy, and unattractive get married and have lavish weddings and never have to work again. I’m usually correct but when it comes to what I thought about what it takes to get a ring on my finger, I’m clearly failing. I just don’t get it!
I’ve had boyfriends (most were a bad choice I fully admit), and literally none of them except my current one speaks to me about marriage. It’s rattled my brain for the past year (since turning 30). So the girl that is fully self reliant, successfully, hot, smart, sweet, and classy ends up with a naked finger while the girl that gained 30 pounds after the wedding cake and barks out orders while refraining from giving her husband sex gets a rock on her finger with no problem? What world am I living in?
I’ve heard the same response over and over, “have you sat down and talked to him about marriage?” Umm, no. I’m the catch. I’ve never sounded repulsed at the idea, and in fact he knows that I do want to get married. I’m not giving him an ultimatum. If he proposes, it’s because HE wants to, no pressure.
I’ve had it with my boyfriend. I’m 30, he’s 40. EVERYONE we know is married. I feel like a smuck. I feel taken advantage of because he comments that I’m his soul mate and he wants to marry me and be with me forever…blah blah blah, but there’s no action. We’ve been together for 2 and 1/2 years. I’m giving it until the end of this year and then I’m moving on! I’d rather be alone that to continue “play” house. And YES, marriage IS that important!