- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
So We have a couple that we have considered to be good friends of ours. We both asked them to be in our wedding party. They agreed, and she actually squealed. Well after they agreed they wouldn’t return phone calls. Fiance would call him, I would call her text and so forth and so on. She called me when she got a new car, but when I called her about Bridesmaid or Best Man dress no answer. It went on like this for 2 months, with us wondering what we did to our close friends.
Fast forward, and Groomsmen finally calls Fiance. He got laid off, barely has money for food, needs wood for the winter, and has a tree super close to his house that needs to come down before his insurance company drops him. We take down trees, so we proceed to drive an hour and 15 minutes to access the situation.
Fiance and I discussed the wedding on the way, and Fiance wanted to offer to pay for her dress and his tux rental. Because to him that was important, the people we have stand with us, and invite.
So we offer, they accept. But he also keeps asking WHY? Why would we spend so much money, it’s omly one day blah, blah, blah. Oh it drives me nuts.
We took his tree down, and did some work for his neighbor as well. He told Fiance he would help take the tree down, but cleaned his chimney instead. While another friend of ours camr to help. It was a 2 day job, the second day we worked on it we were paying wages at the neighbors while Fiance did the work at our friends. He said he would help, but he took off with his SO instead. REALLY?! GRRR.
Now we have brought him 2 full loads of wood for free. Do I need to explain what gas is to drive 75 miles each way in an F150? It’s expensive. We can’t afford it, we’re paying for a wedding and have cut out every extra possible.
None of this has been my problem, my problem is this. Fiance gets phone calls twice a week asking when we are bringing more wood? We try to explain we’re trying to plan a wedding, we don’t have the gas we don’t have the time. Just have some patience. NO CAN DO! Twice a week!
Here’s the situation. We have 8 weeks to finish paying for our wedding. Fiance got hurt, and we fell behind. We are now working 6.5 days a week, and this man lives an hour and 15 minutes away. He has enough wood to get to the middle of November. But has no patience, and I am starting to feel like our needs are of no matter. After all I paid the deposit on his tux, and he still hasn’t driven 15 minutes to get fitted!!!!
And to top it all off, they are in our wedding party but seem completely bored if we mention it. It would be nice if we were asked once how the planning is going, instead of eye roll and thats ridiculous.
By The Way they had no money for clothes for our wedding, I get it not important to them. But she got a new car and I see new electronic gadgets showing up. Meanwhile we are giving them wood, and did a $2000.00 btree job for FREE. We even paid wages for part of it, and our own gas money.
Not quite sure why I posted. Maybe for advice, maybe validation or maybe because he called again today, and I’m afraid if I don’t get this out poor Fiance is going to come home to my head spinning like the exorcist!