(Closed) Feeling sad about waiting

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Your moment will come, probably sooner than you think.

 

And it will be FANTASTIC and you wont remember the pain of waiting (well, not so acutely).

 

Hang in there!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Creiddylad it’s 130 here in philly. I should go to bed, haha.

 

But seriously…I started getting really frustrated like you. A month later, I was engaged. You will be fine! He loves you and got your message loud and clear. Men listen better than we think. πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Signs sound good to me!!!  My SO and I get pretty awkward when ever the “E” word or “R” word comes up.  I really think that is normal.

By The Way, its 1:30 am here too…..I should be sleeping….but im not…so im in here..Lol

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

Is it because you are maybe hoping he’ll propose to you on your graduation day? I graduated last May and my SO actually revealed to me that the year before he was hoping to do exactly that, but one of his loans kicked in the semester before (BOO LOANS, in more ways than one!) so he lost his chance to save up for a ring. I feel like forcing yourself to stop waiting puts an elephant in your empty head and just makes you think about it even more (or at least it does for me) so I would just enjoy everything you have going with him. The way you described things, I think he definitely has some plans for you πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@Creiddylad:  Its so crazy how we talk about weddings and the different aspect of a wedding like cake, guests, venue, music….but anything engagement related and its ummmmm……uhhhhh…..AWKWARD! Go freaking figure…and its not just him its both of us!

I really did hope it would happen by my graduation, then on his graduation….then maybe on the police academy graduation….nada.  Then we have been planning a fmaily vacation (vegas of all places) and I didn’t want to hope…but I did and now he likely will be starting a new job and can’t go. So I really do understand the feeling being torn between hoping for something while also preparing for it not to happen.   

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It’s going to happen on the vacation.

 

(If it doesn’t, bitchslap that boy!)

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Creiddylad:  Men like to propose in “memorable” ways. Most people I know have gotten engaged on vacation or at a memorable spot, and if it’s BOTH, I’d say that increases the odds. Now, I was never in a “waiting” phase and we bought the ring together so I knew a proposal was coming at some point, but he proposed on our first vacation together, about a month before I thought he’d propose (I didn’t even connect the fact that he decided we’d go on vacation about a week after we bought the ring with the proposal, but he’d been planning it that whole time). He also acted really weirdly excited about the vacation, and was super hyper the whole time, which was really abnormal since he’s usually very relaxed on vacations. SO maybe it’s my own personal experience talking… but I think that ring talk + upcoming vacation + abnormal behavior = proposal imminent. Crossing my fingers for you!

(But if it doesn’t happen on vacation… don’t get discouraged, since he’s obviously thinking about it and researching into your ring preferences! And some dudes move super-quickly once they decide it’s time and others have to ease into it.)

eta: Another “should have given it away” in my story – he asked me to bring a particular dress on vacation and told me one day before dinner that I should wear it to dinner. He’d never cared before about which clothes I wore when (and hasn’t since), so I should have known something was up! I thought he was just being weird. But he was trying to make sure I was dressed up for the proposal! My cousin also made his girlfriend wear a particular dress when he proposed to her, as did one of my friend’s husbands. SO. If he starts demanding you wear a certain outfit, the jig is up!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

@distracts:  My thoughts EXACTLY πŸ™‚ (just kidding… but not really haha)

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