Post # 1
After a series of very serious, emotional talks, my partner and I have decided to postpone our wedding from 2020 to 2021 in order to be more financially prepared. I’m feeling down. All of the wedding is planned short of us actually putting down deposits and paying for things, and I actually went dress shopping with close friends on Friday. I know that this is the right thing for us to do to avoid putting ourselves in an unnecessary financial bind while still having the elopement we want, but I still feel like I’m mourning the loss of this big special day we had planned, as silly as that is.
My fiancé is wonderful but doesn’t get it—he says he’s happy to get married whenever as long as it’s to me. I feel irrational and unreasonable for being upset considering it’s one day in the grand scheme of our lives, so I’m not sure what I’m looking for? Commiserations, validation, something like that. Just curious if anyone else has been through something similar and how you coped with feelings of disappointment.
Post # 2
- Wedding: January 2021 - City, State
I’m so sorry you’ve had to delay for financial reasons, I totally honestly get how you feel, we had to delay as my fiancé’s mum got breast cancer, we both decided that she was more important than a wedding.
it will still be an amazing day when it comes, it’s going to be totally worth it when you get there. You got this ❤️❤️
Post # 3
I’m so sorry that you’ve had to delay. You are doing what’s best for you and your fiancé though and honestly, 2021 is going to come around quicker than we think. I’m also getting married in 2021 and I’m feeling so pumped right now!
Post # 4
It sounds like you’re being very wise about money so give yourself credit for that. I’m sure that doesn’t help with the disappointment though. It makes perfect sense why you would be sad. Treat yourself to something special today.
Post # 5
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
This must be so disappointing, I feel for you. You’re doing the sensible thing though, getting your finances sorted is the smart thing to do.
My best friend had to push her wedding back a year after a booking mixup with her venue. At the time she was really frustrated, but honestly that year went so quickly, it was unbelievable.
Your day will be here soon, bee x
Post # 6
Of course you are mourning. You’re mourning the loss of the special day you thought you were going to have, now delayed. You have an absolute right to feel that way. It will pass, Bee. But, for now, please just allow yourself to feel your feelings.
You have just experienced a huge disappointment. Your feelings are totally understandable. Lean on the man who loves you. He doesn’t get it, help him get it. Talk to each other, Bee.