(Closed) Feeling sad and insecure about my ring…. :(

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 77
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@Everdeen:

Yes i suppose that might seem odd if that was the case,  but although people in this thread have mentoned this scenario,  at no time did the OP  say that.

Post # 78
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979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Fiance gave me the ring his mom had before she passed away.  Its not at all what I wanted. But its grown on me and I have to appreciate the sentiment behind it.  I would just appreciate what you have.

Post # 79
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

If your Fiance is someone who values things like expensive cars and watches and is someone who actually buys these items, but then buys an engagement ring not in line with the cost of these items.

if she really said that, then I would be even more convinced that she is spoiled and being petty! like others have said here: money does not = relationship value or love. rich people are not exempt from this.

but that’s not what she said anyway (sure, it was inferred but not actually stated). so it’s moot.

Post # 80
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I feel like the actual underlying issue might have the most to do with the (huge) sacrifices you’ve made to be with him, & that you may feel a cheap ring is insulting & doesn’t reflect that same degree of sacrifice (especially if he can afford it). I don’t think everyone should be scolding you for feeling something you can’t control. I would be honest about it with him, but in a gentle way. “My friends were all showing off their rings, & I felt a little insecure because mine was smaller. I love you and the thought behind the ring, but maybe we can upgrade at our anniversary & use this current one as an heirloom for future kids/nieces/etc.”

Just a thought- good luck! Just remember, you can’t help how you feel, but I’d spend some time thinking about why you feel that way before you decide whether to bring it up or not.

Post # 80
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Busy bee

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shannycat1981 :  Firstly, this is a really old thread so i’m sure the OP no longer needs the advice.

Plus I think ‘im jealous my friends all have bigger rings than me’ is a terrible reason for her Fiance to have to buy her a new ring. 

If she doesn’t like the style, or as in OPs case told her Fiance she wanted a particular style and he went for something else entirely that’s one thing but imo for the reason to be ‘my friends have bigger rings’ is crazy. 

Post # 81
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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whnlz :  Excuse me, I just joined the site yesterday and hadn’t noticed the date. I’m assuming she doesn’t need your input either after all this time, so you are replying to me just to be obnoxious.

I’m sorry you disagree with what I wrote, and that you think her feelings are “crazy.”

Nice to meet you too, you seem really pleasant.

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