Post # 1
I got married about a month ago. It was a small intimate ceremony. We went to a very beautiful restaraunt afterwards and it was a reaalyy great day. My husband, when planning, wanted a big reception. I didn’t. He has a huge family and I don’t. So I got sucked in to all the details and fun of planning. It is ending up costing us a lot of money too. Money we don’t have, but whatever, you only live once.
Anyway, I was talking tonight about getting my makeup done at my mom’s house and she like flipped. She says she thought it was just going to be a party when she well knows that the DJ is introducing us, the bridal party, etc. just like we just got married. She says why do you have to do that, and I was like cause I want to feel pretty and special. Geez only 100 people will be there.
She got me in a bad mood. I put a lot of effort into this and it is just a “party”!?
To top it all off, she is actually helping pay for the caterering, so she KNOWS it is not JUST a PARTY! I wish we would have just kept it simple. UGH………… sorry I just needed to vent.
Post # 3
My cousin is sort of having this problem already. She is having a wedding in the next state over from where we live and then having a reception with everybody later. Some of the older crowd members haven’t really grasped the concept of the party actually being a reception. I’m sure if it’s out of the norm for your mother then it might have just seemed like a party.
I have to say that I like how you and your husband found a happy medium to have the wedding that each of you wanted. I’m sure his large family will be happy that they get to share in your day as well. If your mom mentions it again I would probably just mention that all weddings are parties! I know that if a wedding will be the most expensive party I ever plan for myself I would certainly want to get all dolled up too!
Post # 4
My mom doesn’t seem to understand this either. *sigh* I don’t know how to help them get it either.
Post # 5
we eloped and we had a big party when we got back, about 150 people, catered with staff/bar etc and i never considered it a reception – i did consider it “just a party” so people had the opportunity to enjoy and meet me and my family *shrug shoulders*
Post # 6
Doll yourself up lady!! Its YOUR party (or reception for that matter)! You’re celebrating your marriage, hell yeah its a party! A HUGE AWESOME PARTY!
I’m sorry your mom made you feel that way, dont’ let it get you down and do what makes YOU happy!
Post # 7
@misschickpea: Aww thank you so much! Yup It is going to be an AWESOME party and shit, I’m gonna look HOT if it kills me! LOL
Post # 8
@FloretteLiz: Thank you. That was very nice of you to say how we both got what we wanted. And yes I sure hope his family appreciates the effort I put into bringing them all in one place to celebrate his special moment in his life.
And I will just have to ignore my mom thinking I am pretencious (sp) and doll myself up!
Love you guys 😀 Big hugs