- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
So I highly doubt that anyone on here is going through what I am going through. I have no one to talk to about anything… well no one who I want to talk to anyway.
So a very long story short, Fiance have been together 5 years. We have 2 kids. He is an alcoholic. Hes been sober for about 6 months.
Before that, in the spring, he was in a car accident, and charge with DUI causing bodily harm, because the other drive had a broken bone. He is ok now.
We have hired a lawyer, which is costing over $20,000. So financially things could be alot better. Emotionally too. If he is convicted at his trial, he will face 1-2 years in jail, plus be responsible for whatever the insurance company paid to the other drive, lose his licence for 5 years, and possibly face a personal law suit.
Since this has happened, a whole bunch of other horrible shit has happened to us, from losing a baby, moving for his job, his mom being diagnosed with lung cancer…plus a bunch of other crap.
Basically, both our parents health is why we decided to have a wedding in Feb. If we dont, and he does go away who knows if Future Mother-In-Law will be able to see her son get married, and his dad and my mom are also really sick too.
Now, I know most women would say oh just leave him, blah blah blah. But honestly, I doubt anyone of them actually would if it was their fiance. I love him, he is my rock, I dont want to live my life with anyone else. So please dont tell me to leave. Im not, the night I picked him up from the hospital I already commited to this whole situation, and will stand by him no matter what.
So moving along, things are still good between us, its just I dont know how much more either of us can take. I feel so sad, I am already on antidepressants and getting help from the dr, but I just cant imagine what will happen if he has to go away. He doesnt express himself very well, and I can tell hes having a hard time too. I just dont know what to do to help him, or me. I am really scared.
I dont think going to meetings will help. I dont even know if typing this on here will help. I dont know what will help, but tonight I feel sad. He feels sad. He is a good person, and I cant help him 🙁