Post # 1
my rsvps are due back in a couple of days and there are so many I haven’t received yet! Even some close friends who I know will be attending haven’t sent them back yet. Maybe they don’t realize how important it is to me, but SEND IT BACK if you know you can come! Otherwise I feel like you’re kind of just “meh…maybe I’ll come, maybe I won’t.” I’m feeling super stressed out about this. We have nowhere near as many Yeses as I was expecting to have by this point! Has this happened to anyone else? We have about half as many as we’re expecting RSVP yes.
Post # 3
@allie6113: This totally happened to us when we were planning our wedding – you are DEFINITELY not alone! People, get in your RSVPS please!! 😀
Post # 4
We got a trickling of rsvps on and then all of a sudden, half of them arrived one day. Just casually mention it to your friends and hopefully they’ll send them in!
Post # 5
People are ridiculously lazy about sending back RSVPs. I think we had to hound down at least half of my mom’s family….
Post # 6
@allie6113: You’re not alone, that made me crazy too! Just give them a reminder after the deadline passes and try not to take it personally.
Post # 7
Ours aren’t die for another week but we are missing half (almost 70 cards). My family has mostly said yes, but quite a few of FI’s relatives (on FFIL’s) side are saying no. I feel really bad for Fiance and and Future Father-In-Law right now so I’m hoping the rest of his family all say yes.
Post # 8
First, just take a long deep breath and know that this happens to pretty much everyone! Second, divide and conquer once your deadline hits. I made a list of friends/family on my side and friends/family on DH’s side and my mom and I began calling my list and he and his mom took care of his list and in less than a week, we had 100% RSVP 🙂 It’s a tad frustrating because, no doubt, you have a million other things going on right now, but it’s a necessary evil, unfortunately. I phrased my question to these slackers as, “Hey, I just wanted to make sure that our wedding invitation made it to your mailbox!” then if they say that it did, my reply was “Will we be seeing your smiling faces on April 20th?!” If they kinda ho-hum and don’t give you a direct yes or no, just tell them that you hate to sound pushy, but that your final headcount is due to the caterer in 2 days and ask if they could give you a final answer by the next day. Trust me, I know…it sucks! But once it’s done, you’ll feel soooo much better 🙂 Good luck to you!
Post # 9
appreciate it, ladies! I totally wasn’t expecting this AT ALL (ohh the things I wish I knew before I started wedding planning!) but I guess this does happen to a lot of people. We’ve gone ahead and started nudging people, and I got quite a few of them come in the mail yesterday 🙂
Post # 10
People (including me!) seem to hate sending RSVP’s back. It’s so weird, I don’t know why but I really hate tracking down a post box and remembering to mail stuff. When I send out my invites I’m going to give the option of RSVPing online as well as snail mail.
Post # 11
@allie6113: this happened to us too! Ours were due 9 days ago and we’ve still been contacting people to get their response!