(Closed) Feeling sad…just need to vent a bit- money drama

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Just want to let you know that we’re here for you! This is the place you need to come to vent your frustrations and your worries! Wedding planning is going to be hard. There are a lot of people’s emotions involved, and it always seems to bring out the worst in everyone!

The most important thing  you need to keep in mind is that you’re marrying your wonderful Fiance, and that the two of you are in this together! Everything will work out in the end, and you’ll have a beautiful wedding! Better yet, you’ll have a wonderful husband to spend the rest of your life with!

You’re going to have good days and bad days….for the bad days, like today, definitely come here and let us know about them! We’ll be sending hugs your way!

Post # 5
Member
1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I hear ya. I’ve had those days too…Hugs!!

Post # 6
Member
660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I hear ya….my Fiance and I are paying for it ourselves.  We looked at our estimated budget and we are over 10K than what we expected. πŸ™  It adds up so quickly.  Hoping I hit the jackpot soon. πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I found that the first few not-wonderfully-romantic-and-all-happy-all-the-time things to occur after the engagement got blown out of proportion because of the unconscious expectation that being engaged is all roses. If maybe you had that too, combined with the difficulty of the first rough time after the elation of your Fiance finding a job after a difficult period, you could be more affected by the issue than you otherwise would have been which may be why you’re so emotionally spent right now.

Regardless, try to keep your chin up! It’s all going to work out ok.

Post # 8
Member
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

We payed for most of the wedding ourselves and we had to save, save, save and budget like crazy. It was SUPER stressful. I totally understand!! Hang in there. (Hugs)

Post # 10
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4824 posts
Honey bee

Money is stressful.  Even when you are not paying for it all or any of it yourselves people have expectations that come with money (you, him, your family, his family).  And even when its not wedding related money is stressful.

Have you had a chance to sit down and talk about finances and what your expectations are of each other and your future together. This is a good time to do it and will hopefully (after a good discussion) make it easierin the future.

I think you should each write down what you expect for the wedding who pays for what, what that means, how its divided etc.

And then on a different sheet, how you think money should be spend on life. Do you expect to take one vacation a year? buy a new car every 5, retire at a certain age? Talk about big purchases? etc etc.

Its tough, but in the long run it will reduce the number of stressful money related days if you can get on the exact same page with out assumptions, accusations etc.

Post # 12
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@Evie19: I always find that one of the best ways to relieve some of the stress is just writing it out and getting it off of my chest. Sometimes I just vent it out to my husband and I just need him to listen…not even solve my problem, but listen to me vent so I can just let it all out!

Money is going to be one of the biggest stressors when it comes to the wedding. Just take things one step at a time and try to budget yourself like crazy. Ms. Sparkles is right…things add up so quickly, so do your best in trying to keep things completely organized. Budget for everything you can possibly think of and stretch your dollar when you can. lefeymw has it right…budget, budget, budget!

Post # 14
Member
1890 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, but just know that you’re not alone–we all have money-related issues, especially when it comes to planning what should be the biggest event/day/party of your life.  I feel like money issues are the #1 thing that are affecting my wedding joy, and I admit, it’s really hard not to get upset sometimes, especially if you’re a people-pleaser like me and you guys are just now getting started with working and living on your own.  But everything will work itself out in the end, and the important thing is you’re marrying the love of your life.

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