(Closed) Feeling self conscious about budget

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
2238 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

somethingbee:  I live in Boston and have a pretty big budget (though it still doesn’t feel that way because everything here is so dang expensive), but at the beginning of planning, I was looking to save $$ and found a TON of great deals in terms of photography, musicians, etc. because of all the college students in the area (especially those schools that focus on the arts like Berklee, Mass Art, etc.). We didn’t end up hiring any of the college students, but it seems like such a great resource for brides looking to save. I know that Berklee actually has a “job” board where you can put out an ad for ceremony or reception musicians and student groups will respond. I’m sure other colleges have a similar type of thing, too!

Post # 18
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

somethingbee:  I am a designer too, so I feel you in that there is a little more pressure to have a picture perfect wedding (from myself and friends). I am planning on doing a lot of DIY to keep the costs down. Think about all the money we will save on invites/thank yous with some photoshop/indesign skills and relationships with local printers! 

Post # 19
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My Fiance and I are in Boston and are both artists too and are also shooting for a $10,000 budget! We quickly decided to have our wedding on the South Shore, where our families still are anyway. Leaving the metro area immediately knocked $2-3,000 off our total. Plus, our ceremony and reception will be right on the water. Our compromises so far:

– Guest list is 80 people or under (expected attendance 50-60)

– We’re only doing professional photography, no videography (but we’ll be using GoPros to capture the ceremony and reception moments and editing footage ourselves, since we both work with FinalCut etc. anyway)

– No paper invites, everything will be email only using Paperless Post or similar

– I’m designing and printing everything myself (wedding info site on Tumblr, on-site programs and ephemera hand-lettered or printed at home) 

– I don’t plan to order any flowers, I’m crafting centerpiece arrangements and want to do paper bouquets

– We won’t have a DJ, we’ll pre-mix our playlists

– We’re building our own DIY photobooth setup for guests

– I’ll be picking up a sub-$500 dress at David’s Bridal or online and gussying it up myself

Inescapable expenses are the venue, catering and alcohol (no DIY or BYOB permitted), and pro photography. But that’s it, and I think we can keep everything under budget and looking good. And you can bet I’ll be DIY-ing every damn thing I can! If you have some crafting supplies, fancy paint, elbow grease, good taste and know-how at your disposal, you’re already more than halfway to a Pinterest-worthy affair. 

Post # 20
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had a lot of success using yelp and wedding wire to find good people. Also recommendations from friends and posting requests at film schools 🙂

Post # 21
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

somethingbee:  I got married in Boston as well, and a great way to find deals on photography is to look at photographers based in New Hampshire, Vermont or Maine.  Oftentimes they will travel to MA for no additional fee and the pricing tends to be a bit lower than the Boston metro area.  Another idea is to ask for a custom quote with fewer hours than the standard package – it never hurts to ask!  I have a big spreadsheet of Boston-area photographers with a photojournalistic style — if you PM me your photo budget, I’m happy to send along anyone in my spreadsheet that may be a good fit!

Post # 22
3729 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

somethingbee:  I live in DC. Equally expensive. I’ve been to 10 weddings in the past two years with budgets from $5k to $200k. The $50k+ weddings were awesome, but the top 3 for us were under $15k (some well under. All with dinner and alcohol). All had over 100 people too.


What’s your budget and feel you’re going for?


As far as a photographer. I loved mine and she was under $1000. I wouldn’t spend $5k+ on a photographer.

Post # 23
1552 posts
Bumble bee

We have this exact thought process like every day! We switch between wanting a beautiful wedding in an amazing venue to thinking we are too poor, why bother and that we should just elope or courthouse in our jeans haha. Ultimately we want a nice wedding, and i’m an only child so my parents would be so mad if we eloped. They have agreed to contribute a little so that helps us. Weve decided to splash out on venue and photographer (within reason). Everything else is as cheap as possible/ DIY/ were not doing. We are cutting out alot, and even considering self catering food etc.. to cut costs. Were thinking of doing a high tea so it should be easier to self cater. 

My advice is pick one out of photographer and videographer (probably photographer because you can put photos up around the house) and limit the rest of the wedding. You can decorate on a budget and DIY alot especially if you find a cheap but nice venue. Cutting numbers of guests is one of the best ways to save money. Weve decided to have a family only wedding so numbers dont go above 40. 

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