Post # 1
I felt very sick on Monday. Nausea, dizzy, stomach cramps. After suffering for a few hours at work I decided to leave. That’s when the “are you pregnant question started.” While I’m thankful that people care about my well being, I couldn’t believe how many people asked me that question! I guess that’s what happens when you’ve been married for about 3 mos and you are not pregnant yet. Has this happened to anyone else?
Post # 3
Everytime I would call in sick to work people would tease me and say I must be pregnant! I think some people think it’s a funny joke… it gets a little annoying though, I know!
Post # 4
I get that and I’m not even married yet! It’s just a way of people showing concern. I guess everyone wants to think that you’re just ill because you’re pregnant instead of possibly spreading germs! 😛
Post # 5
The other day my step-mother just kept glancing at my stomach! It was painfully obvious what she was thinking. To bad I was just bloated! I think she was actually trying to make me notice that she was looking, in case I needed the courage to make an announcement!
Post # 6
Any time I ate out for the last year, I could tell everyone was trying to pretend they weren’t looking to see if I had wine, or ate sushi, or any other telltatle pregnancy sign. SO tiring!! I just would start making a big show of drinking or something so they could relax 🙂
Post # 7
Yup. I even had this happen on my Honeymoon, when I got sick at Cicthen Itza in Mexico.
Post # 8
What I found works is to announce casually when the conversation comes up that “We have decided to hold off having children for the time being.” That way you can do as you wish and people won’t start guessing before you’re ready to announce the news. And they’ll leave you alone if you are really postponing.
Plus, you may have trouble getting pregnant and the last thing you need during this time is to have people on the edge of their seats feeling sorry for you or waiting with baited breath for news.
If you are trying, when you are with nosey busy bodies, announce you dislike shushi after reading an artilce in a magazine; you recently discovered you are allergic to the sulpher in wine. In other words, if you’re trying to get pregnant and don’t want anyone to know, be deceptive. People don’t need to know your business.
If you’re not, go ahead and order the wine and gulp like Janna suggested!!
Regarding your mother in law, I would also tell her in a casual way “I heard xyz is having a baby and we’re so happy for her. ABC and I have decided to wait a while though as we want to” travel, save $ for a house, work on career….whatever feels right for you to say.
Then say, “But, I promise you will be one of the first to know! We wouldn’t keep something like that from you!!”
@heathaah I like your spirit and attitude. You must always look on the bright side and I think more people should have that outlook in life rather than someone is always trying to put you down, squirm out a secret, etc. Nicely said. good for you.
Post # 9
yep! it’s happened to me a couple times, and we just got married! I just laugh and say “I sure hope not”
Post # 10
People don’t accuse me of being pregnant yet which is good especially since we aren’t even married yet! But it infuriates me to no end when people just announce they’re ‘sure’ we’re going to have kids. Or talk about the future as if it’s a definite certainty. Like “Oh, well you’ll definitely need a yard b/c you’re gonig to have kids”. When I look at them and say “Actually we’re not planning on having kids and going to stay in the city” They just shrug me off like I’m lying.
Post # 11
I’m not married yet, but one of my coworkers started a joke about me being pregnant when I was sick. I was naesueated and dizzy and ended up going home early one day. It took two weeks for that joke to die down. Thankfully I like my coworkers!
The worst is when I wear a shirt with an empire waist and the kids I work with (teens in residential care) accuse me of being pregnant. They have no sensor on what comes out of their mouths.
Post # 12
I work in a pretty close knit office…there are 3 of us that are full time and one part time girl. Two of the other full timers are guys and oh my gosh to I get ribbed by them ALL THE TIME! If I even go to the bathroom too early in the morning, one of them is like, “oh my gosh, are you pregnant?” Thankfully, I know it’s all in good fun and they are just saying it to irritate/tease me. It’s actually pretty hilarious, but if anyone else did it, I would probably be pretty annoyed.
Post # 13
People were on alcohol watch for me. I couldn’t refuse a single sip without someone saying something. It was highly annoying, especially for us who wanted to keep any early pregnancy a secret!
Post # 14
Your post made me laugh because I actually did this to myself! My husband and I JUST started trying and then I had a couple of days of feeling nauseous. I was thinking “Holy sh*t! I can’t have gotten pregnant that fast!” Needless to say I didn’t mention feeling sick at work because I would have totally gotten the “Are you pregnant?” questions from everyone.
Post # 15
I think I’m more paranoid about this question than anything. I recently went home sick because of vague “stomachy” problems, and I was all nervous that people were going to ask if I was pregnant. I don’t know why. No one did, though 🙂
Post # 16
@momma-I like your tips for refusing wine/sushi for when we are actually ttc.