Post # 1
I’m feeling a little fragile and very confused. I’ve been to 2 wedding dress stores, the first one , the salesgirl picked out all the dresses for me- I didn’t actually get to look around and choose. Is this normal? She made reccomendations based on what I liked/didn’t like about each dress. Most of the dresses were A line, and they all looked really beautiful, there were 3 that I might be maybe considering. I have to admit though, A line isn’t my favourite style and I did mention that too her, but she kept insisting on the Alines. I was feeling really concerned that it’s because I’m too fat, as I do like fitted dresses. The second store, I was allowed to pick and I tried on some fitted ones and we (my mum and I) thought some of them I could get away with (although didn’t pick any of them).
So with wedding dress shopping, am I supposed to know about fabric styles and materials or would you normally try on different styles? Is it normal for the salespeople to just choose the dresses for you?
Are there A line dresses with skirts that aren’t big? Thats really what I didn’t like, I don’t want such a full skirt.
Did any of that make sense? I’m totally confused and overwhelmed. I just want a dress that looks nice!
Post # 2
Your weight does not determine your body type, and it is the body type that has to do with whether a particular dress silhouette will work. Are you a pear body type? An apple? Hourglass? Try to identify your body type, and explore the silhouettes that will work best.
And just because I find them beautiful, look at these gowns from Pronovias!
Post # 3
Some people definitely do their research. I think it’s a mixed bag. It’s good to know what you want, but It’s not great to get fixed on the idea of one kind of dress when so many brides end up choosing and loving something totally different from what they had in mind.
My husband’s sisters were totally different. I went to watch them both try on dresses. Older sister was dead set on a mermaid or fit and flare with lots of bling and that’s exactly what she got. Younger sister went in with the vague idea of maybe something kind of like older sister but with long sleeves, and ended up rocking a gorgeous, unadorned strapless satin ballgown.
As for me, I knew I wanted a full skirt. I wasn’t expecting it to be tulle, but that’s what I fell in love with. I was open to any kind of sleeves, and ended up with lace cap sleeves. I did know I wanted a darker ivory or champagne(my color was called “butter”, which was perfect) and so I didn’t try on anything that only came in white or light ivory.
If you want a fitted dress, I’d keep looking until you find the perfect one. It’s out there! But if you’re open to A-lines, you could ask for a modified A-line with a narrower skirt (they exist) or get one where you can remove layers of tulle for a slimmer look.
Post # 4
I’m no expert on the subject as i have only been to one bridal salon and ended up buying my dress that day. When i went into my appointemnt i brought pictures with me that literally included every style and every fabric I’m a bride that just loved the look of everything! when i showed them to my consultant she explained that the pictures didnt narrow anything down and that her goal for the day as a consultant was to show me all my options so i can make the best decision based on what i like. We started with fit so trying on ballgowns, Aline, fit and flare and mermaids.. fit and flare was a clear winner for me so then we moved onto fabric and chose my dress from there.
Im sure every salon is different but i think its the consultants job to show you your options especially if you came in asking to try a certain style. I think Aline is a very common option that looks great on almost all body types so maybe she was a new consultant or not a very confident one and thought that was the easy way out. I dont think it has anything to do with your weight, honestly in my wedding dress search seeing countless pictures online you see all shapes and sizes absolutly slaying different styles. I would try a different salon and ask to try all the options your interested in i would hate for you to end up with dress regret and not feel 100% confident on your wedding day!
Post # 5
I did research in the sense that I found dresses I liked online and figured out what they had in common. When I went to the bridal shop, I asked the consultant to pull a couple of the specific dresses I had liked, and then I said I was looking for fit-n-flares or sheaths with cap sleeves and bold lace patterns.
I didn’t look around myself and didn’t really care to – I think it’s hard to get a sense of what wedding dresses really look like while they’re on the hangers.
All of the dresses the consultant pulled for me were fit-n-flares/sheaths that had some combination of cap sleeves and interesting lace. The one I ended up choosing was actually the first one she pulled for me, though she had my try it on last. It was sleeveless but had by far my favorite lace pattern.
She didn’t pull any ballgowns or A-lines for me. Perhaps because I specifically said I wanted fit-n-flare or sheath.
Did you ask any consultants for more fitted styles? I agree with sullivanbay94
that they may have just pulled A lines by default because you didn’t specify any other shapes you wanted to try.
Post # 6
I did specify that I didn’t really want an A line and liked more fitted styles, but then the fitted style was so unflattering on me. Its sent me on such a body conscious rant, honestly I can’t believe how insecure I’m feeling now! I’m going to just leave it for a week and try a different store.
Post # 7
I thought I’d update……i ended up finding some fitted dresses and a fit and flare that looked good and I very NEARLY got one, but I couldn’t stop thinking about one of the A-lines I had tried on and ended up going with it!! Funny because that was a style I didn’t think I’d go for…but I love it!
Post # 8
Beautful dress choice! Congrats 🙂
Post # 10
oh my goodness that dress is just beautiful. And so flattering to your figure. Excellent choice!