(Closed) Feeling so disappointed…

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1800 posts
Buzzing bee

@Sassyfras27:  Ahh that sucks. I know people will say that you can’t expect your guests’ lives to revolve around your wedding, but your grandmother and other close family members should want to be there. I understand that your aunt may not be able to make it for whatever reason pertaining to the new baby even if the circumstances are questionable, but in general I would want those people there, and would be upset if they couldn’t make it. We are (most likely) only inviting family and maybe 1-2 very close friends, so it will be sad for me if one of them can’t make it!

Post # 4
582 posts
Busy bee

@Sassyfras27:  I’m sorry, but you are right that it does sound selfish. A three hour drive is an awful lot for most people, let alone grandparents. Getting a dog sitter for an evening might not even be a thing she’s aware of (it’s not something I’ve ever even heard of). They also might not want to make the three hour drive in the dark (I would hate that). Also, for people like my mom, her dog is her baby (you know, not counting her fully grown kids). Some people don’t get it, but that old dog is very much family, and she has doggy health issues that mean my mom really doesn’t leave her unattended for long stretches of time, especially at night when she needs her medication. The ceremony is the important part – the reception is usually more fun for the young crowd anyway.

As for your aunt and cousin, you really should be happy for her, regardless of how you feel about her marriage/children’s fathers. Already having one baby doesn’t mean she doesn’t need her mom around if she’s late in her pregnancy – especially if she’s having marriage troubles. Daughter trumps niece almost all of the time and that’s really how it should be.

Post # 5
45627 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Sassyfras27:  Did you ask your grandmother if she could get someone else to look after the dogs for one night, as you would really appreciate her being able to attend your reception?

Post # 8
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

So my wedding is September 6.  Unless my dates are off and I REALLLLLLLY hope not, your wedding on a Sunday?  I think it’s pretty standard for people to leave early from Sunday receptions, especially elderly relatives.  Try not to be disappointed.  As far as the cousin goes … wouldn’t you be upset if your mother went to her wedding when you were going to go into labor any minute?  I don’t know.  I feel bad for you because of the just inconvenient family circumstances,  but I really don’t think anyone is trying to slight you or thinks you aren’t important.

Post # 9
7730 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Sassyfras27:  I’m sorry, that is disappointing. Can a neighbor or can you find someone to watch your grandmother’s dog? I’d be disappointed if my grandmother planned to leave right after the ceremony too.  

Post # 11
2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She’s a grandma – of course she doesn’t want to stay overnight in a hotel. She’s probably got a billion things she’d have to bring with her to be be comfortable, and she probably would be miserable the entire time. I’m sure she’s actually using her dogs as an excuse to be able to head home at a reasonable time. 😛

My grandmother is the same way. 😉

Post # 12
119 posts
Blushing bee

@StephieBee:  Seriously?  A grandmother wouldn’t want to stay in a hotel? I find your post kind of funny.  If I were a grandmother I’d be insulted.

Post # 13
329 posts
Helper bee

@StephieBee:  Lol, I have a friend who is 44 and a grandma of 2 and one on the way. I think she’d actually LOVE to stay in a hotel with her busy life. ;P But, my grandma was the same way as yours. She needed everything but the kitchen sink to be happy! 😛

Post # 14
2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012



I’m just thinking of my own grandma, who is in her 70’s and lives 3 hours away. She always leaves early because it’s her preference. I completely understand why she wouldn’t want to stay in a hotel, just trying to give my perspective!

Post # 15
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My family is the same way.  And to be honest, as much as I love them, I wouldn’t be surprised if they told me they couldn’t come for similar reasons.  I could be upset or sad about about it, or I could think “well, now I can invite my close friend that I had to cut from the guest list”.  IMO, it’s your day and NOTHING OR NO ONE should be able to bring you down. 

Post # 16
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Sassyfras27:  I’m sorry 🙁  I would be PISSED if my grandmother (or anyone else, frankly) put DOGS before my wedding reception.  I mean seriously – dogs are more important than her granddaughter?  Boo.

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