(Closed) feeling so down about everything about myself

posted 6 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010


I think we can all be so hard on ourselves at times.

Your fiance is with you because he chose YOU and loves YOU.

Exercise is one of those things that is nasty to begin with (at least to me) and then becomes enjoyable, and you do not feel right unless you do it.

As for feeling ‘disgusting’ which I assure you, you are not.. taking steps to look after yourself and your body will only ease these negativities. 

Be kind to yourself. You are unique, beautiful and precious.

Post # 4
241 posts
Helper bee

Why are you always in pain? Do you have a back injury?

There isn’t anything you can do to work on your fitness? I only ask because working out always makes me feel better about myself!

What about yoga? You don’t have to spend a lot of money to do this. I bought a DVD at Walmart and I do it in the comfort of my own home. When I started the DVD I couldn’t even touch my toes without bending my knees! Now I can!  🙂

Could you and your Fiance take walks together? Or does that cause too much pain?

Also, you could look into water fitness classes at your local YMCA (if you have one). Water workouts are great for people with back or joint pain! I took a water aerobics class a few years ago when I was just starting out. It was fun! I was the youngest person there by about 40 years, but I felt comfortable there. None of the older ladies were judging me.

I’m sorry you’re feeling so down in the dumps. I only suggested so many activities because I have found that you have to first change your actions before you can change your thinking/feelings. I am not trying to minimize your feelings or ignore them! I’m trying to help!

It is an awesome thing that you Fiance loves you JUST the way you are – now you have to learn how to do that for yourself.

Post # 5
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@misskarianne:  I’m so sorry.  I’ve had days where I feel disgusting too. (dieting and working out for 2 months, no weight loss but increase in waist measurement, which is always fun.)  I’m sorry you feel like he deserves a skinnier wife, but your fiance loves you.  What he deserves is a loving, HAPPY wife.  I can guarantee he would rather have a happy wife than a skinny wife.  Please don’t let how you feel about yourself get in the way of your relationship.  You’re going through a rough time right now with the pain that makes it hard for you to work out.  We all have days where we feel crappy. Don’t let it change who you are.  =)

Post # 6
194 posts
Blushing bee

Oh my goodness, hun. Double hugs. I am sure you aren’t the only one going through this, and it helps to be surrounded by a great support system that this place offers. So many brides that huddle together in one place. And we really don’t mind you venting at all. That is why the majority come to places like this.. Ideas and opinions, but most of all, for support. I am just really sorry you are having such a hard time right now. I am sure if you were to talk to your Fiance, that he would understand and at least give you the physical hug that you probably very much need right now. I may not be in your shoes completely, but sometimes I do wonder what my exact place is. And when I am, I realize that if he didn’t love me, he wouldn’t have ever asked me to move in with him, and we wouldn’t be headed on the path that we are on right now. He doesn’t just see the aesthetic side of loving you, and I am sure you are beautiful, love. Inside and out. He will see ALL of you, no matter if you are a 0 or a 28. No matter what your size, good or bad, right or wrong. I hope this helped.

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