Post # 1
For the past year we have saved absolutely everything we could for the wedding as we are paying for it ourselves, or so we thought. About six weeks ago, my parents offered to pay for the florist, programs, the church fee, hair, and the remaining of our reception venue. Which completely cut us some slack–it was such a relief to hear this. So we stopped saving as much and just started purchasing all of the little details that we needed for the wedding.
I know my parents don’t have much to give and I don’t want to take from them. Fiance and I have paid about 30k for the wedding thus far…but now my parents just told us that they can only pay for the florist because my dad’s truck needs a new engine. They are really upset that they can’t give anything more…but I understand. However, last night my dad told Fiance and I that last summer he saved around 8k to give to us for the wedding but my mom spent it. Then again he saved 7500 for the past 2 months, half of it is gone. My mom is terrible with money (yes, that is none of my business) but it still makes me upset that I have cried, saved and stressed so much about the finances and she has sat back and watched me, then gone out and spent what my dad put aside for us.
So now we have to figure out our money issues (probably have to take out another loan), meanwhile there are only 15 RSVP’s that have come back out of around 100. Which really makes us feel unloved because half of those 15 are no’s…and I have to tell this awesome videographer that we can no longer afford to have our wedding filmed. It’s just becoming more sad than anything else. I WISH WE WOULD HAVE ELOPED!
I know, just call me a debbie downer for today!
Post # 3
Dont worry im sure everything will work itself out with the finances. Just try to make cuts where you can, and remember that you are marrying the love of your life- thats the most important part of the wedding and you dont need all of the other things. As for the RSVP’s, people who know for sure they cant make it usually RSVP early on, so im sure the yes’s are comming soon. People are just slow about responding to these things. I hope your day gets better 🙂
Post # 4
@mzlouis2b: Thanks for making me feel better!! 🙂 you’re right about the RSVP’s, and I’m going through the cut list right now (I am so attached to everything–this is going to be hard!)
Post # 5
I know this probably isn’t what you want to hear right now, but you might want to see if you can find someone on Craigslist to do the video. Offer $100 or so and make sure they give you at least 2 copies that can later be edited. You’d be surprised at what you can edit out.
As for the flowers, see if you can do any of it on your own and cut the cost down to divert some of the money. Dollar Tree has some good silk flowers that might work for the church or centerpieces… you might end up with something you like better!
Post # 6
@MrsLongcoatPeacoat: Thanks for the advice!
I think I am going to keep the florist because she is already really inexpensive (she works out of her home), but I’m thinking about having small centerpieces instead of the large extravegant centerpieces we had planned on, everything else can be kept the same because it is a the fraction of a price of any other florist around, the same costs if I did the flowers myself, and the same price as silk flowers (I considered these awhile back)
On the bright side! We just recieved a completey generous and unexpected wedding gift in the mail! Someone cares!!
Post # 7
Aw, I’m sorry to hear you’re having such a hard time. You just have to keep perspective that as long as the officiant gets paid for, the wedding WILL go on.
Post # 8
@mzlouis2b: Completely agree, the no’s will come first. The people who know they are coming tend to think, “Well that is a no brainer” and wait til the last minute or totallly forget to RSVP altogether until you call them. Don’t stress, and keep focusing on what the day means…you get to marry the love of your life. That alone is worth it all!