Post # 1
due to what my future in-laws have been doing/treating us our entire engagement. FH is driving up after work today and I won’t see him for another week or so due to him being away for this wedding. I’m so busy with school but also so sad all the time!
I know I can’t let these people steal my happiness but I’m miserable knowing FH is as well. I don’t think I can be really happy with them in our lives at all. 🙁
It makes me sad I will never get a genuine apology, I know all they’ve said about me is not true but it’s really scarred me. I feel like I need counseling after this entire ordeal just to handle the feelings of inadequacy they’ve stirred up in my life. I don’t feel important at all, I feel abused verbally and my privacy is gone.
I don’t even want them at my wedding. I want to feel excited again about my wedding, about having the wedding with my friends even though his family may still end up showing up after threatening not to. I hate them. I really, really, do.
Post # 3
Take a deep breath.
Does your school have counselors you can see? Or do you have a pastor you can speak with?
I think after you’ve calmed down a bit from all this, maybe you and your Fiance should sit down together and talk about having his family at your wedding and how you’re going to work together to set limits with them.
Post # 4
There are school counselors but they’re all booked up. The only real form of therapy I’ve had in all this is simply making a time to be with my best girlfriend every day (she is a psych major).
Post # 5
Oh, so good you have a friend “in the field.” 🙂 Have you asked her for thoughts on what counseling options are available to you?
I have been following your story dealing with your Future In-Laws. I don’t even know what to say, it seems like they’re extremely controlling and demanding people, and not used to hearing “no.” (The thing when they called your school was so out of line.)
I think the most important thing is for you and your Fiance to make sure you’ve got each other’s backs when it comes to dealing with them.
Post # 6
@SimplyChic11: SO SORRY HONEY…. EVERYTHING WILL WORK OUT FINE