Post # 1
I’ve always known I’m not very photogenic. When I look in the mirror, I’m relatively happy with the way I look. I know I’m not in line to win any beauty contests, but I’m content with my overall appearance.
That is, until my wedding photos. I look terrible in 90% of the previews. When I smile naturally, I show too much teeth/gums, and it looks rediculous. I have my ‘camera smile’ when I pose where I consciously try to hide my teeth, but with the photographer taking candid photos, and my genuine smile on the day, they all look terrible.
I thought I was just being hyper-critical of myself, as women often are, but my insecurities were confirmed today. My photographer e-mailed me to let me know she had updated her website with some of our photos on it…. the only ones from my wedding are ones where you can’t see my face. Every other wedding she’s shot has several photos of the beautiful bride, except for mine.
I spent a lot of money on a photographer because I felt that a professional should be able to capture what I see in myself. I’m so ashamed and in tears as I’m writing this.
I know this is so superficial, and I should be happy that I’m married to a wonderful man, I’m happy in my career, and in life, but this has really got me down. I just needed to get that out.
Post # 3
I saw your recap – you look beautiful! There’s nothing wrong with your face or your smile.
Post # 4
@metalbride: Aw *hugs*
Glass half full, maybe she put up photos she liked best… and it has nothing to do with the way you look. Some wedding photos I’ve seen photographers display aren’t great at all (of the brides).. so that just confirms that everyone has a difference in opinion.
I guess just try to remember how you felt on the day. Did you feel beautiful? If so, then try to focus on that. That’s all that really matters.
I understand your disappointment in the photos, but it will lessen over time. I guess you can’t win them all so I’m not going to try and convince you to like the photos when you truly don’t. It’s just one piece of the wedding and yes, you are married to the man you love.
Post # 5
Just to add… I went and checked out your pics, you look HAPPY… I honestly don’t think you look bad at all!
I’ve been known to think bitchy things when I see some wedding photos (and who hasn’t) but truly, honestly, if I happened to stumble on your recap thread before I saw this post, I wouldn’t have thought anything nasty. If that helps lol.
Post # 6
@metalbride: A professional photographer told me once that people who are the most photogenic are rarely the ones who are the best looking in real life. And that the people who are the most beautiful in real life are rarely photogenic.
I believe it because I have a co-worker who is, shall we say, a little on the not-pretty side. But she looks great in pictures, beautiful even. She’s disappointed quite a few internet dates because of this, btw. And another co-worker is lovely in person but always looks a little goofy and off in pics, nothing like her adorable self.
I’m not sure what makes a person photogenic, exactly (I’m not either) but not being photogenic in no way means you’re ugly. At all.
Post # 7
I went to see your recap you posted, I think you look great, super happy, beautiful dress. I think your judgeing your pictures too much. You should be happy with the pictures.
Post # 8
YOU LOOK BEAUTIFUL IN YOUR PICS! You are just being over critical of yourself, I swear, those are amazing pics!
Post # 9
Just checked the recap, too.
Girl, don’t be silly. You’re gorgeous!
Post # 10
Don’t say that! You look beautiful, I mean that! And I have a feeling that truly she used those pics because your DIY things and especially those sunflower/wedding party photos are AWESOME! I’m sure she wanted them on there because they aren’t the run of the mill “smiling bride” pics that anyone could have. It’s because those pics are so different and gorgeous, not because of you. The one pic I saw of you smiling, I didn’t notice what you are saying, just one happy bride (to be, I guess that shot was). You look beautiful.
Post # 11
You have a beautiful smile! I was a dental assistant for a long period of time and when I saw your recap I thought how genuine and beautiful your smile was!
You took beautiful pictures! We are our own worst critic and I think you looked beautiful!
Post # 12
I just looked at the recap photos and I think you look great! I love your smile because it is genuine. You look happy and that’s the most beutiful thing of all. And don’t let the photographer’s website stress you out at all. They seem to put up the most random stuff. I mean whose dress looks better on a hanger than on the bride? But that seems to always be on photographer’s website.
Post # 13
You are being far, far to hard on yourself. Your smile radiates in your pictures. You look lovely and so very happy!
Post # 14
You look GORGEOUS and HAPPY in your pictures…don’t even worry about it. Maybe she didn’t pick pics ith your face for her website because you would upstage the other brides! But seriously, no need at all to feel ugly…you are gorgeous in your edding pics and you look sooo happy!!!
Post # 15
@Sunfire: A professional photographer told me once that people who are the most photogenic are rarely the ones who are the best looking in real life. And that the people who are the most beautiful in real life are rarely photogenic.
This has to be true. I think I’m quite pretty in person and I get a lot of compliments/checked out (heh…), but oh my god, pictures, no. I hate probably 90% of pictures of me and I always get upset when I see one and think, “Wow, is that really what I look like?”
@metalbride: I just went and looked through your recaps, and you look beautiful. A natural smile is the best, most attractive look anyone can have. You look SO happy in your pictures.
Post # 16
You ladies are so sweet! that’s really nice to hear.
Most of the photos are much worse than the one in my recap. I don’t really care to post them online.
Even looking through them with Darling Husband for the first time, he commented on how bad I looked in the pcitures. I know he was just being honest, but it was really, really hard to hear.
I did feel very beautiful on the day, and only wish I had at least one shot that represented the way I felt when I looked in the mirror.