(Closed) Feeling sorry for myself. :-( (vent)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m so sorry you are having to deal with so many disappointments before what should be such a special day.  I would feel sorry for myself, too!  I have no real advice other than to encourage you to focus on the good that is still there amidst all the stress.  You will be marrying the one you love and, even if there aren’t as many people attending as you would hope, those you love and who love you will be there.  Hopefully your dress will end up being as beautiful as it must have been to make you Fiance fall in love with it.  Whatever ends up happening, try to focus on the love that is there and the joy that is really the point of a wedding.  Good luck to you!  

Post # 4
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8369 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I am really sorry this is happening to you.

But I will say on of the hardest things to do is disappoint someone you care about. i think this is usually the reason why friends and family avoid having the “I am really sorry but I cannot make your wedding” talk. It is extremely difficult and guilt-ridden to realise that you wont be there after you promised you would be. I am not condoning the actions of such guests but just trying to mabe let you see another side- that it is not because they dislike you but because they do.

Normally if someone dislikes you they have no problem telling you no!

As for your Aunt- are you sure you have the right contact details? Has she maybe changed her email? Have you tried calling her? Maybe get your mum to let you know when she will next be at your mums house and call them- she can’t really hide (if she is hiding) from you then!

I understand how disappointing it is when you don’t get the numbers you expected (we actually had 82 invites and only 32 guests attend our Destination Wedding in the States so I get it) but you really have to move past it for your own sakes. The way I look at it is just because they can’t make the actual wedding doesn’t mean they aren’t happy for you and supportive. 

Hair and dress- I am sending positive vibes because there isn’t much more that anyone besides the dressmaker and hair stylist can do. Hopefully it will all work out wonderfully 🙂

Post # 6
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

 

Can you post photos from your fitting tonight?

Im typing a response to your original post.  I typed it and it didn’t go through once before but I am trying again!

Post # 7
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8369 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Edelweiss:  Unfortunately the facebook message (to say congrats) is todays congrats card!

Honestly put the wedding out the equation in terms of your friends. If you still have the same feelings (that they are fairweather friends) then maybe it is time to move on and establish a new family of friends. I know this can be tough and scary to do but like all relationships, friendships grow and change and sometimes they flourish and sadly sometimes they don’t. Just because you are friends at one stage in your life doesn’t obligate you to be friends in another stage. If you have done all you can to salvage the friendship and still it doesn’t seem right then it is ok to let it go- just like you would a boyfriend!

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