Post # 1
A little bit of background.. I am in my seventh week of pregnancy, and teach grade two french Immersion. I’ve had a bit of a rough time the last couple of weeks… my grandfather passed away and I had to take three days leave since the funeral was out of province. When I got back I had a workshop, so had to miss another day of school. Then I had a day with horrible morning sickness where I could barely stand up , and went home sick halfway through the day. Finally, my principal informed me that there are a few cases of slap cheek ( a very contagious disease that is dangerous for pregnant women… if I were to catch it 1/3 chance of miscarriage or major birth defects). So now I am home for the week (tuesday-friday) until I get results back to whether I am immune or not.
Needless to say I’m getting a bit anxious of missing too many days. I know that parents will be questioning why and worried that I’m not invested in their childrens education. I have always cared so much for my students and am very worried that in the very short amount of time since school started I have missed so much time.
I just got a call from my doctor saying I have two routine appointments scheduled, and that it’s impossible to schedule them for after school time… . They are both scheduled at awkward times (a bit before lunch) so I will more than likely need to take full days off since I have to travel 30 minutes to get to work.
I’m finding these first weeks very stressful since nobody knows and I am more than likely being judged 🙁 We have parent teacher interviews at the beginning of november…and I will be just under 12 weeks. If you were me, would you tell parents at that time so that people finally understand?
Post # 3
Since these are all parents (obviously) they have all gone through pregnancy so they will completely understand. I think it is a good idea to be upfront and let them know it is still early so you would rather they didnt’ say anything to the kiddos until you are out of the first trimester. Just let them know you wanted them to understand your absences and that you are still 100% committed to teaching their kids.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry about anyone being upset except your employer. Tell the parents when you are comfortable but I wouldn’t do it solely because you are feeling bad about missing so much work. They’ll find out eventually and be understanding. If they aren’t understand then too bad for them. You have to do what is best for you and your baby.
Post # 5
My principal knows and has been 100% supportive. It’s just hard because I know that parents are already talking…. one of the moms actually works within the school so knows when I am or am not there. It’s a small community so people talk. Thanks so much for the advice though… I know there’s nothing I can do about it which is why it’s so frustrating.
Post # 6
If you want to say something but you don’t want to announce your pregnancy quite yet, you can say you have a medical issue you are currently working through and emphasize that it is temporary. I don’t think you should feel obligated to announce your PG ahead of time and I think if you leave it as a generic medical issue, people will assume it is serious but then not something you want to discuss further.
Post # 7
If you aren’t comfortable saying anything then don’t. You are not obligated to say anything, and I am sure if they did know, they would understand. You need to take care of yourself first, whether you are pregnant or not.
Post # 8
@Mrs.H2B: Personally, if I were almost 12 weeks I would just say it and move on, but if you’re not 100% comfortable sharing then don’t! They don’t need an explanation, your principle sounds very supportive and that’s the only person who needs an explanation. Plus if you don’t feel like telling now, in a couple months they’ll definitely know!