(Closed) Feeling TOTALLY overwhelmed and sad

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

This happened to me! I think it’s normal for people who are kinda… I don’t know… glass-half-empty people, LOL. (like myself)

Our wedding was last night and now I feel totally back to normal!!! 😀

Post # 4
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179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

First thing first- don’t beat yourself up over how you’re feeling, it’ll only make things worse. You can’t help your emotions, the best thing you can do is be good to yourself and try to figure out where they’re coming from.

When you say he proposed a few months ago, I think that you might be coming off that newly engaged high and the “work” of a wedding is setting in- not to mention the cost! I have had times like this with my fiance. Of course no one knows your relationship the way that you do, but in my case, I sat down with him and explained that I was just feeling overwhelmed and irritable. I apologized for snapping and told him it wasn’t his fault, I was just in a funk. Everyone gets in them. I’m sure he’ll be understanding.

If you think it would help, you could take a “me” night. Go visit your family or your girlfriends or just snuggle down with a movie or a book. Those kinds of nights help me immensely! Take a weekend off from wedding planning too. Do fun things with him that aren’t wedding related for a few days.

I hope this helps! Most of all, know that everyone feels like this about planning a wedding at some point- no matter how excited we are to get married, weddings are overwhelming and emotional and you will have a few more bad days or even a week. Be nice to yourself and open with him, it will be okay Smile

Post # 6
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179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

But often those girls who only focus on the party are the ones who aren’t ready. It’s easier before the wedding- after the wedding is over and it’s the marriage, that’s a different story.

Marriage is a huge deal. Literally, it’s the biggest decision you ever make. It determines your family from this point on. You might want to check out “The Conscious Bride” blog- I am an overthinker and a worrier, and this helped me a lot.

http://www.consciousweddings.com/

Just like any other major change in your life, you’ll have conflicting emotions about getting married. Think of it as leaving for college or moving away from home the first time (times like 1000). There’s excitement and joy, but there’s also anxiety and a sense of loss. You’re giving up your singlehood, plain and simple. It’s such a major life transition, and the wedding industry makes us believe that it should be all rainbows and butterflies, but it isn’t. That is not to say that you should stay with someone you are unsure about. But give yourself a little time and accept that engagements are really difficult. It’s a weird limbo period. Let yourself have whatever thoughts pop into your head. Virtual hugs!

Post # 8
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179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Here’s one last link, and then I’ll stop going on and on and on Sealed

http://conscious-transitions.com/?page_id=347 This is that Conscious Bride blog, and it talks about the transitions you’ll go through leading up to being married. Definitely part of the ride!

Post # 9
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348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Your feelings are completely normal! Don’t beat yourself up about it. I went through something similar when my husband and I first got engaged. Even though I had absolutely no doubt in my mind that I wanted to marry my husband, I think I still freaked out a bit at the finality of it all, and it seemed like everything he did annoyed me! Like others have said, wedding planning is really stressful, so I think these feelings are super common.

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