- 6 months ago
- Wedding: September 2016
Some people feel it’s important to travel and have adventures (whether that means vacations or moving). My mother is one of those people and I had the experience of being one of those people too. I think it’s really valuable to use this time, when you are young and married (or not) and pretty unencumbered, to go on adventures.
ALSO, though, these are the years when people are also getting married (or their first divorces after incompatible first marriages), buying homes and starting to think about how the next decades of their lives are going to go.
If you feel trapped, you need to travel and have the experiences you crave. You may not need (or be able) to convince your husband to uproot himself or make any major moves- it could be that YOU go on an adventure for a period of time or you go on a vacation on your own or something else.
I noticed a few PPs making comments that imply your feeling trapped and desire to travel could be about maturity or you trying to “run away” and people would say the same things to my mother when we were moving around- she just had a nomadic spirit and a need to experience different places and just because they couldn’t understand her (or her choices wouldn’t work for them)- it did not mean that her choices weren’t good ones for her.
Last thing- I think it’s also really valuable when people decide, within a marriage, that honest and authenticity are priorities (for themselves and also for their partners) because then you and your husband have the opportunity to build a relationship that is genuine and serves/benefits each of you.