Post # 1
Do you ever feel like you’re just unliked? Like…not hated, but like people just don’t really care? Almost isolated?
How to explain…I was never really popular or “noticed” because I’m a pretty quiet person. I’ll speak up when I feel a need, but if there’s nothing to be said, I’m not the one to blabber on. Sometimes I feel like people just don’t make the effort to get to know me and overlook me. I don’t know…it’s probably all in my head.
What do you bees do when you’re feeling like this?
Post # 3
I know how you feel. I’m not as quiet as I used to be but I used to feel overlooked all the time. I try to think of it as their loss for not getting to know me and cling to the people that do care.
Post # 4
aw I’m so sorry you feel this way! I do know what you mean though. I’m pretty much the same way.
Whenever I feel that way I just think that I’m grateful to have an ahmazng husband, in a great relationship that other people wish they had. That I have a core of a few really great friends that I know I can count on in time of need not 4 dozen acquaintances that you can’t trust as far as you can throw them!
If all else fails a hug from my husband works best so go get one from your SO! 😉
Post # 5
Yeah, I’m right there with you. I feel like no one cares to try to get to know me and be my friend. I feel like people are turned off by me sometimes too and I don’t even do anything. Once people talk to me they are fine, I think I am just awkward or something. I still have very few close friends.
Post # 6
I am exactly the same way!!! I’m not much for small talk and I don’t talk much anyway. Whenever I feel that way I just pick someone and start a conversation. It seems counter-intuitive but 99% of the time I get a good response and realize it is all in my head. Unless, of course, that person is having a bad day too lol.
Post # 7
I feel this way too. I sometimes feel like the only reason people invite me to do stuff is because I pratically beg them to.
Post # 8
Awww I’ve totally felt that. I think we all have. (((HUGS)))
Post # 9
I feel the same way. I’m really quiet and shy and I’m easily embarrassed so I tend to avoid lots of social situations. I have tried talking to people while I was in class but it’s like no one is interested in being my friend. I feel isolated from some of the friends that I do have because they have kids or live far away.
It got to the point where my MOM was begging people to invite me places because I literally go nowehere.
Post # 10
I feel that way all the time. I’m quiet and shy, but once I get to know people, I am ok. I’ve been working at my job for almost 2 years and no one really pays any attention to me. I guess it’s my own fault for being so quiet, but I have a hard time opening up to people and starting conversations.
Post # 11
@soon2bhis: I don’t do anything. I often feel unliked but quite frankly I just assume it’s because I tell it like it is. And people hate that. I frequently get jumped on by other people for just having an opinion because I won’t molly-coddle people.
Fiance accepts it as the way I am, and I am lucky because I think 99% of people would prefer me to do that whole fake girl gig–smile and passive-aggressively talk shit behind their back rather than say what’s on my mind.
Keep your head up. Learn to enjoy being unliked because at least you are yourself. Trying to be someone else to make other people like you is exhausting…I’ve tried.
Post # 12
I’m exactly the same way. Have been since high school. When you’re as painfully shy as I am, people overlook you or think you’re just an unpleasant person. I suck at mingling in social events.
I try to look at the positive in that the people that do want to know me are the most important people in my life, and I don’t need 100 million friends at the end of the day. 🙂
Post # 13
I’m so quiet and awkward. I’m even this way around my relatives I don’t know very well and FI’s family. I worry they think I’m a snob ‘cuz I don’t talk much. I’m not, I just don’t know what to say!!!
Post # 14
@soon2bhis: Sorry you’re feeling this way. I agree with PP’s, I think we all have felt the same way. Fiance is a lot like you described. Some people just don’t feel the need to talk incessantly. I am the oppostite. I come from a loud boisterous family. So, I have the gift of gab. LOL.
It took my family a while to get to know Fiance because they were not used to someone who wasn’t always chiming in and running their mouth. Once they did though, they grew to love him and appreciate his dry sense of humor. You don’t have to be a chatty Cathy, but just keep yourself open to people and they will grow to appreciate you too, I bet. There’s something refreshing about someone who can sit back and listen, and take it all in, rather than always waiting for their turn to talk. 🙂
Post # 15
I feel exactly the same way. I used to get really upset because I thought people didn’t like me. I’ve grown to realize that I’m the type of person that puts a lot of effort and emotion into a few very special relationships, and other than that it doesn’t matter that much to me. I don’t have tons of chattering girlfriends and I don’t have a huge “group” that I hang out with. I have Fiance, whom I consider to be my absolute best friend. We do everything together, and that is not an over-statement. Then I have one or two really close girlfriends. And that is about it. I have other aquaintances of course, but I rarely ever do anything with them outside the school setting.
I’ve been fretting lately about having, like, nobody at my bachelorette party. I will invite about 9 people but expect about 3 to show up. But then I just remember that I will have so much more fun with the few people that I am truly close to, than feeling left out because I’m with a whole crowd of people that make me uncomfortable.