Post # 1
I am the last person that likes to complain about anyone else but sometimes I just feel really unloved. I have a lot of girlfriends per say, but none that I am super super close with. I have a lot of friends that I don’t see very often, but we catch up on the odd basis. I have a childhood best friend who is in my bridal party, but we’re like that too… don’t see each other very often. I’ve tried really hard to make plans, or to do things with her in the past, and she ditches me every single time. We still have that connection since we’ve known each other since we were kids, so I wanted her included regardless.
Anyways, This week, all my bridesmaid dresses came in. One was the complete wrong dress, and others are mostly all too small. I was a little panicked by this, but the bridal shop seems to think we can fix things.
My girls all had their measurements done, so I really don’t know how this is even a problem… but somehow they’re all too small. This childhood friend of mine promised she would make the two hour drive to the shop to take the dresses back so we could order new ones. I was excited to spend some time with her on the road.
Anyways, long story short.. she texted me this morning (very last minute) to tell me she decided to pick up a shift at work instead since she needs the money. I just feel so unimportant…. and if it was the only time it has ever happened it wouldn’t bother me so much, but it’s an ongoing thing. the other girls are busy too, so it looks like I’ll be making the trip by myself… which isn’t much fun… plus more expensive.
I guess I’m just looking to vent more than anything. Sometimes I feel the only real people I can count on are my family, and Fiance. It’s sometimes really depressing when I see other people planning weddings with these best friends who would do anything for them. Or just to have a friend in general who you can count on would be nice.. nevermind the wedding aspect of things.
end of vent. haha.
Post # 3
Blah, that stinks. I guess the thing to remember is that your friends will be who they are, and even though they’re bridesmaids, they’re not going to change. If you have super close friends who you do stuff with all the time, they’ll probably be the types of bridesmaids that go above and beyond, and if your friends are a bit more distant, they’re going to be the same in their bridesmaids role. I know that doesn’t make it any better for your situation though. Are these girls married? I think the way I have thought about all this wedding stuff has really changed since I’ve been engaged. I was always happy for my friends when they were engaged/married, and did the best that I could as a bridesmaid, but now that I’ve gone through it I will definitely make all the little extra efforts since I know how meaningful it all is. And I’ll probably think of a lot more things to do for the bride since I recognize when people do that for me. I guess beyond the bridesmaids thing though, it sounds like you maybe need some new friends! Not like get rid of the old ones, but new friends that want to hang out and chat and have someone to lean on. I have a lot of friends from back in grade school and college that I hang out with and am close with, but some of my other very close friends are girls I only met a year or two ago. I guess just try to do some things to meet some more people and see if you strike up a connection with anyone. You’d be surprised at the number of ladies who would welcome a new buddy to hang out with! While it’s nice to have friends that you’ve known forever, it’s also nice to have new friends who you’ve met at this point in your life and don’t know you from before. I dunno if any of this is helpful, but cheer up, you’re not alone!
Post # 4
Thanks! I was having a real down moment and your reply made me feel a lot better. I will definitely keep your suggestions in mind .
Post # 5
Try not to take it too personally. I’d never begrudge someone the opportunity to work and make some money even if it meant a last-minute change of plans or big inconvenience for me. I save those “YOU MUST BE HERE” days for very special occasions, and not too many of them. It’s annoying to sometimes have to take a back seat but if your friend(s) bail on you so they can pick up an extra shift, it’s kind of hard to be mad about that. I don’t want to take money out of someone’s pocket.