(Closed) feeling unloved… anyone else?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Blah, that stinks.  I guess the thing to remember is that your friends will be who they are, and even though they’re bridesmaids, they’re not going to change.  If you have super close friends who you do stuff with all the time, they’ll probably be the types of bridesmaids that go above and beyond, and if your friends are a bit more distant, they’re going to be the same in their bridesmaids role.  I know that doesn’t make it any better for your situation though.  Are these girls married?  I think the way I have thought about all this wedding stuff has really changed since I’ve been engaged.  I was always happy for my friends when they were engaged/married, and did the best that I could as a bridesmaid, but now that I’ve gone through it I will definitely make all the little extra efforts since I know how meaningful it all is.  And I’ll probably think of a lot more things to do for the bride since I recognize when people do that for me.  I guess beyond the bridesmaids thing though, it sounds like you maybe need some new friends!  Not like get rid of the old ones, but new friends that want to hang out and chat and have someone to lean on.  I have a lot of friends from back in grade school and college that I hang out with and am close with, but some of my other very close friends are girls I only met a year or two ago.  I guess just try to do some things to meet some more people and see if you strike up a connection with anyone.  You’d be surprised at the number of ladies who would welcome a new buddy to hang out with!  While it’s nice to have friends that you’ve known forever, it’s also nice to have new friends who you’ve met at this point in your life and don’t know you from before.  I dunno if any of this is helpful, but cheer up, you’re not alone!   

Post # 5
2567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Try not to take it too personally.  I’d never begrudge someone the opportunity to work and make some money even if it meant a last-minute change of plans or big inconvenience for me.  I save those “YOU MUST BE HERE” days for very special occasions, and not too many of them. It’s annoying to sometimes have to take a back seat but if your friend(s) bail on you so they can pick up an extra shift, it’s kind of hard to be mad about that. I don’t want to take money out of someone’s pocket.

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