Post # 1
It’s just a couple day until my wedding and I’m suddenly feeling SOOO unpretty!! I am pretty, but I have put on about 10 pounds in the past year due to stress eating from planning. I literally cannot wait for this wedding to be over so I can take care of myself again.
I usually don’t get that down about my weight gain, I’m certainly not fat, but it is hard to see pictures of myself because I always look like a blimp, even though in person I look perfectly fine, in fact I actually like having a curvier shape for a change.
Last week I started running to relieve stress and my weight rocketed up 6 pounds basically overnight!!! I know I won’t be able to lose that weight and I honestly don’t know why this is happening. I’m not eating any differently, and I’m working out more, and even if I were eating differently it couldn’t cause that much weight gain in just a week or so!
I can’t stop looking in the mirror and picking myself apart which is not something I normally do… and now I think I look like a whale in my reception dress which I used to love, and I really don’t want to wear it anymore.
I’m so stressed out about people looking at me all day that I’m developing a complex. I couldn’t handle having a shower, am not doing any special dances or anything at the reception and basically just don’t want anyone looking at me at all. I’ve started praying for rain so everyone would want to leave early. I just don’t think I can handle being in the spotlight. I want to hide!!!
Post # 3
step 1: stop looking in the mirror and finding things wrong with you. your psyching yourself out.
step 2: stop looking at the scale. If you have been running your probably building muscle which weighs more then fat. NOT.A.BAD.THING.
step3. BREATHE! I have honestly NEVER been at a wedding where people pointed out “OMG look at those extra 16 pounds!!!” Relax your almost at the day that you get to marry your love surrounded by those who love you just the way you are!! which is the most important part.
Hoping your day is beautiful and goes exactly as you wish it to!!! CONGRATS!!
Post # 4
Stress alone (not just stress eating) can cause weight gain. Try to take a deep breath and remember what the wedding is ALL about- you get to marry the man of your dreams and your best friend! We all want to look perfect and you WILL because you’ll be HAPPY!:)
I agree with the PP that I’ve NEVER been to a wedding where people are talking about weight gain- everyone there is there because they love and support you!
I think you deserve/need a pedicure or massage or SOMETHING that will require that you sit still, take deep breaths and relax before the big day!
((((HUGS)))) and good luck relaxing!!
Post # 5
I’m studying to be a mental health counselor.
and @drakela2 is completely right. Stress alone can cause weight gain. When we stress out our bodies produce a chemical called cortisol. Cortisol makes your body hold onto fat cells.
Honestly these girls are right. TAKE DEEP BREATHS!
Deep breathing is one of the fastest ways to release the cortisol and get it out of your system.
Try doing some yoga, indulging in bubble bath, massage… anything to relieve that stress. Make sure you’re drinking plenty of water and eating healthy! Don’t under eat… that will make you more depressed, moody, and also hold on to the weight more.
There has never been an ugly bride. Every bride is beautiful. You ARE beautiful. Your friends and family are there to support you and see you get married to your wonderful significant other, who loves you regardless of a few extra pounds!
Post # 6
I was so stressed about being the center of attention at my wedding that I almost let it ruin the entire experience. I had also gained more weight than I was used to, and couldn’t stop seeing something wrong with how I looked. But then, I am that way regardless of my weight, so it wasn’t a weight issues as much a self-esteem issue, and the image in my mind of how I wanted to knock his socks off was a lot of pressure to live up to.
Please give yourself the gift of letting go of the need to find what’s wrong when you look in the mirror. I walked down the aisle 40+ lbs heavier than I was when he met me… and he cried, because the woman he loved was walking toward him to share her life him… he, and no one else, was thinking about any of the things I worried about.
If you feel uncomfortable in your reception dress, and you have time and budget to change, then find something you do feel good in. But please try to let go of calling yourself names like whale or blimp~ there’s enough bullying in this world… we don’t have to do it to ourselves.
(btw, I did knock his socks off and so will you)
Post # 7
Thanks ladies!!!!! I feel much better…