(Closed) Feeling unsupported by husband

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 76
3117 posts
Sugar bee

And did it ever occur to ou that maybe he was trying to get you to get off the phone with him so that you could call 911 (or even one of those 24 hour “ask a nurse” hotlines)?  

It does sound like you were trying to test him to prove his love/loyalty.. ie, how far weill he go to make you happy.  Will he call and wake his boss up at 2 am? Would he risk his job?  Would he burst into dramatic tears in front of his coworkers?

Side note:  Please get over your fear of ambulances and the emergency room before you have kids. What would you do if your kid was in medical distress but you were too afraid to go to the hospital or call an ambulance?

Post # 77
7983 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

The more I think about it, the more I think divorce might be an option. It would certainly lighten his load.

He is financially responsible for both of you, and you are playing games with him losing his job. If he lost it because he left for you, would it be his fault that he didn’t have a level head and would you blame him for losing his job? I think you probably would. 

Post # 78
2090 posts
Buzzing bee

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maryjone1 :  So you would literally rather die than go to the ER alone? It truly sounds like you could benefit from gaining some independence. You cannot sit around and expect someone (especially the only person contributing significant income to your household) to run home every time you cry wolf. Sometimes you have to put on those big girl panties and SAVE YOURSELF. Would it have been nice for him to come home? Sure, but it’s absolutely insane (and I do not say that lightly) that you would EXPECT that of him if you weren’t even willing to take the first step of calling for help on your own. 


Phentermine causes anxiety and heart palpitations—did you not read the label? Maybe this is not the right drug for you, if you cannot handle the side effects without completely freaking out and thinking you’re about to die. That is a textbook situation for the side effects outweighing the benefits. Maybe ask your doctor for other weight loss advice or remedies. 


Either way, it all boils down to the simple fact that if you’re seriously considering divorce over this shows that you are not mature enough to be married in the first place…



Post # 79
3194 posts
Sugar bee

I still don’t understand why you are so terrified of an ambulance or ER. These people would work to save your life if needed. Why is that scary? Are you an adult?

Even if you legit were having a heart attack, I still wouldn’t blame your husband. During parts of my job, if I left for anything, even a true medical emergency for someone other than myself, I’d be fired. I don’t blame him for not wanting that to happen. You need to be seen by medical professionals at that time anyway, not your husband. And you were clearly not in a rush, so neither was he.

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