- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
OK so this may be a long one…
My boy and I recently bought our first house and as it is the first place we have lived with a lawn, we dont have a lawnmower or any of that. We were going to buy one, but his parents insisted we just borrow theirs when we need it. So every time the lawn needs mowing, we attempt to do that, only to be told that his Dad will come out and do it. Which he does… eventually, when the lawn is really high and its difficult to mow and we get a lecture about the state of it!
As its a new place, the backyard has NO grass at all and is overrun with weeds, which we get out there and weed every few weeks. This most recent time though we decided we would chop them down with the lawn mower, weed kill, then lay grass to make it all more mangeable. So, again, we attempt to get the lawn mower and are told that his dad will come and do it.
So he comes out during the week, sees how high the weeds are (which we told him about and that we really would prefer to do it ourselves given the amount of work there!) and got really mad. He told my boy that they would come over Sunday to help us weed. Sunday comes, and it is really rainy in our area and so my boy calls up his mum to say not to bother because of the weather and can he come borrow the lawnmower so he can do it during the week and she absolutely went nuts at him! Saying how irresponsible we are for buying a house when we arent looking after it, how disgraceful our house is and how we should never have bought a house. Then she implied that we couldnt possibly do our own lawns without their help.
We were both really upset by this, because theyve hardly even been over since we bought it and we have been TRYING to take care of the lawn, only to have them tell us theyll do it, which is not what we want.
My boy was really hurt by what she said because she has never talked to him that way before and I am upset because if she feels that way about our yard having some weeds, how does she feel about me? I felt like if she feels this way about our house, how is she going to feel when we get married?
Boy says he isnt speaking to her until she calls to apologise but still, I really don’t know what to do to fix this. My first thought was that it had nothing to do with the lawns and how we take care of our house, but more to the fact that she feels she doesnt see him enough?