(Closed) Feeling very sad…..Things are going the way I planned…..:-(

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so sorry they’ve decided to take a stand when it comes to your wedding! I wish people could understand that they can just attend a wedding without passing any sort of moral judgement :(.

I’m glad your friends and FI’s family is there for you, even though it must hurt so badly that your family isn’t. Major hugs coming your way.

Post # 4
4824 posts
Honey bee

Focus on those that can be happy for you. I know its hard, but its for the best

I hope this is the only time they judge you and cant support you, but be prepared that in the future they may do the same thing if it doesnt agree with their religion.


Post # 5
911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Can they just attend your ceremony only? I am sorry about all this happening 🙁 My Maid/Matron of Honor had a dry wedding because of her very religious family, but she is not a big drinker so it wasn’t an issue (there was a cash bar in the lobby so we drinkers could buy from there)

Post # 6
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I just wanted to give you these…*HUGS*

I’d focus on those that are there to support and stand by you. Maybe your other family members can do what Miss Sardine suggested and just come to the ceremony? I hope it all works out in the end.

Post # 7
21 posts
  • Wedding: November 2011

1 corinthians 13:2 

“And if I have the gift of prophesying and am acquainted with all the sacred secrets and all knowledge, and if i have all the faith so as to transplant mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.”


“For we have partial knowledge and we prophesy partialy; but when that which is complete arrives, that which is parcial will be done away with.”

Have your reception, enjoy your wedding, enjoy your life.

God is not that petty.

Live Laugh and Love.

Post # 8
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh no, that sounds horrible! I would hope if the guests in question are really close to you that they will change their mind and come anyways. I didn’t realize some people were still so old-fashioned about that kind of thing. During the ceremony I understand, but the reception??


And since when is dancing a sin? Or drinking…let’s think about the whole turning water to wine thing for a second here!

Post # 9
6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Lulou: wish I could press *LIKE* on your post!

sheebsw, i second Lulou’s post, and hugs to you…

Post # 10
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m so sorry 🙁 I’d recommend that you have whatever you’d like at your wedding. If you wan’t alcohol there as well as dancing, so be it! Don’t allow people that are willing to hurt you in the way they are acting, dictate your wedding day. I’m just astonished that they would honestly not come to your wedding because of a pastor refusing for a ridiculous reason. I’m sorry if this offends anyone but I don’t see what the harm is in watching other people dance.. the people that call themselves christian and honestly belive it’s a sin to watch people dance must have not ever read the bible. Example:

“Let them praise his name in the dance: let them
sing praises unto him with the timbrel and harp.”
Psalm 149:3

“A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.”
Ecclesiastes 3:4

“You turned my wailing into dancing;
you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy.”
Psalm 30:11

All throughout the bible it mentiones dancing and relates it to celebrating! It makes zero sense to say that dancing is a sin. Perhaps you should show them these quotes in the bible.

I really hope that you have what you want at your wedding. If they don’t attend because of something silly like that, then they aren’t much of family now are they? A family supports each other no matter what, not just when convienent. At least in my book anyway.

Post # 11
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m so sorry that is happening. Not to offend, but that is a sad way to interpret the bible. Life and love should be celebrated. Goodluck!!!

Post # 12
4582 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so sorry your family is being so ridiculous about this. My Future In-Laws are devout Christians (both pastors) and they don’t partake of alcohol. But they haven’t expressed any issues with others drinking at our reception – heck, we’ve brought beer over to their house for our own consumption and they haven’t complained. And I’m sure they don’t have any issues with dancing (seriously, what’s wrong with dancing!?) It really irks me that some people can be so narrow-minded. 🙁

Post # 13
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Stand firm and rejoice in knowing you are doing what is best for your love on your special day. Celebrate and allow yourself to be happy, and surround yourself with those that support you. *hugs*

Post # 15
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow if people are refusing to attend based on the pastors opinions, thats totally twisted. I wouldnt even consider those people as friends.

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