(Closed) Feeling very shut out :(

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 227
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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@strawbabies: hey strawbabies. usually we also skype at least once a day when he goes home. Part of the issue is that his home is on the other side of the world so his night is my morning and vice versa. So our window of time to talk is really small. This time, the internet in his house was down and because of the family situation, no one had any time to take care of it on top of all of the other stuff they were dealing with (a lot of legal complications arose as a result of the death in the family). And so talking became really difficult and the only option was really to just call his home phone from skype.

We’re going together back to his home country in a few weeks for the holidays. His mom really didn’t want me to come with him for winter break, but he finally put his foot down and said that I had to come with him. And its not that his mom doesnt like me – she just doesnt like to be inconvenienced, feel like she has to entertain etc. I’m really glad he said that he’s bringing me no matter what because it would’ve caused a lot of problems if he went without me, as it did this last time. I understand his point of view – he doesn’t want his mom to cut him off and I don’t either as I already have some student loan debt (not as much as some other people, but some), and its great that he won’t have any. But its very hurtful and I’m looking forward to the time when we can just be on our own financially and not have to answer to or be beholden to anyone.

Im not trying to make my fiance out to be a bad guy, as hes the most amazing person Ive ever met and I feel like we were destined for each other. He loves me more than anything and would do anything for me. But this has been an ongoing issue.

Post # 229
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@ Shutout….Update??

 EDIT :@creativeplannertobee : totally did not see your post before i posted

Post # 230
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@shutout Hope you are okay… **hugs**

Post # 232
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Your fiance should always be on your side.. you will be his WIFE. If you can’t count on that now, you can’t count on that later.. and that is in all aspects of the relationship.

Leaving you at home while with friends and yatta yatta… sounds very very fishy. Also, why marry into a torturous situation?

You would have to be crazy to even want to marry him and into this family. I know it’s hard to realize when your feelings are involved, but take a step back. This is NOT healthy or acceptable. DON’T DO IT.

If he’s not beside you now, he wont be later. You deserve so much better and there is a MAN out there who will give it to you.

Post # 233
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Now i’m scared for her. It’s too bad nobody knows where she is from. I’d call athorities and have them read this and look into her whereabouts.

Post # 234
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Oh wow, I just read this entire thread. I hope shutout responds.

Worried.

Post # 235
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’ve also been thinking about Shutout. I hope she is okay…

Post # 236
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Hopefully she just doesn’t have internet now that she’s left.  Hoping all is well…

Post # 237
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012
Post # 239
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am worried about her and stalking this thread too.

Post # 240
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Did she tell anyone she PMed where she was?

Post # 241
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I have been thinking about her all day. I hope she is doing ok. Has any one heard from her?

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