(Closed) Feeling very shut out :(

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 287
347 posts
Helper bee



Agreed. Fortunately, I have no issues standing up for myself. However, my husband’s uncles never gave me an opportunity to speak my mind, since I never exchanged a single glance or word with them. I can assure you though that my then fiance and now husband knew exactly how I felt. Had he continued associating with them after the two attempts at reasoning with them, I would have walked out and said good riddance.

Post # 288
347 posts
Helper bee



Good for you! I have training as a social worker, and I was very worried about you. Unfortunately, I see lots of abusive relationships. The men always claim to love the women they abuse.

I am very happy that you had the strength to break free and get out of a very unhealthy relationship. Please trust me that your hopefully ex-fiance will not change. His background is a vital part of him, and it sounds like he lacks the courage and the will to stand up to his family. I am not going to speculate about his religious/cultural background, but I am very glad you left this unhealthy relationship.

Post # 289
2 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

Anyone hear anything lately? Any updates? Shut out we are glad you are ok, please keep us posted!

Post # 290
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m curious as well… @Shutout, I’ve kept you inmind and hope you are doing ok!

Post # 291
794 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@shutout:  ……this man is not going to make a good husband….

he is still living for his parents–and there is SOME shady stuff going on if he has to pretend to be single to boot


Are you SURE these requests are coming from his family? And it isn’t HE who wants to masquarade as single? This whole thing smells very fishy to me


Post # 292
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Hi all, I just found this thread, and I was wondering if anyone heard from shutout. I am really worried about her, since that last post she left didn’t sound like her at all from what I’ve read today! Is she okay? I really hope she left, I read my Fiance her situation, and some of the posts/responses, and he couldn’t believe a man would treat his wife to be in such a mnner (I guess the operative word in his response was “man”). But shutout, if you’re out there, please let us know that you are really okay and safe and away from this person! You deserve so much better. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Post # 295
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@shutout:  why does he have to be single??? This still doesn’t make sense. If they want to lie about you two living together that’s one thing but why does he need to deny being in a relationship at all???

what religion are they part of? This might help us understand the “rules” they are living by?

and what does “pretend” to be single mean? Does he get to flirt with other women or dance with other women at his this other wedding??? Does Jhelum get set up on dates by his family when he goes home?

I just realized this is an old post… 


Any update??? Or was this a fake one to confuse the masses?

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