Post # 1
Fiance and I got engaged in December and are planninga May 19, 2012 wedding. These are the events that have happened in the last two months…
*Friend J – She and her now husband have been engaged for a few years and planned a April 2011 wedding. She and her husband got married in February only giving people a week’s notice.
*Friend K – She has been dating her now Fiance for six months and got engaged this weekend. They are planning a destination wedding for late this year or the beginning of next year.
*Friend A – She is friend J’s sister. She is notorious for falling head over heels in love. She and her Fiance have been dating four months and are getting married in November.
*Friend N – She and her Fiance got engaged right before us (as in days) and are planning a September 2011 wedding. She and I have bad blood between us for many reasons.
*Friend M – She is one of my bridesmaids. Wedding fever has hit her hard since N and I got engaged within a two day time span. She is now wanting her boyfriend to propose. He has a ring, and she is planning to get married the month before me. Let me just repeat, she is not engaged yet.
I feel like Fiance and I are slow pokes. Our three year dating anniversary is April 10 of this year. By the time we get married in 2012, we will be together four years. We are taking our time, planning, letting me finish school, and trying to move. Fiance just got a new job that pays extrememly well for his profession, and we are paying for most of the wedding ourselves.
It just feels like everyone is in such a rush to get engaged and once they get engaged they have to get married as fast as they possibly can. It just throws me off a little…
Anyone else have similar experiences?
Post # 3
Well, are all those other couples older than you? My co-worker got engaged over the holidays and they are planning to get married in September of this year! One reason is that they are older and want to have kids as soon as possible. Throw babies into the equation and the timeline gets fast-forwarded.
Post # 4
I dont think it matters. one of my very close friends met her man after I was already with Fiance but she got married a year before me. I have another friend getting married a month after me, she also met her man after me. Some people take it slower than others. I’m glad we took our time with things and have had enough time every stage of our relationship.
Post # 5
Are you talking about me by any chance?
Post # 6
LOL, Oneeleven, are you engaged to my co-worker? 😛
Post # 7
@ama0219: Hi Date Twin! I understand how you feel. My Fiance and I got engaged November ’10 and are getting married May 19, 2012! We have been dating for 4 yrs and other couples we are friends with dated for far less time than us and are already married or getting married soon. I also have co-workers and not so close friends that have gotten engaged after us but getting married before us. I originally wanted a fall ’11 wedding but it did not work out well for FI’s close relatives to attend. We ended up pushing the wedding forward to May ’12. I know it must feel like you’re going too slow or your friends may be “one-upping” you, but you have to do what is best for your particular situation. Just think everyone will be looking forward to your big day b/c there are no other weddings surrounding your particular date… you will have all focus on your wedding day! Congrats!
Post # 8
Fiance and I are planning to have a 21 month engagement. We wanted to have a lot of time to plan and get things together. Plus, we are living half way across the country for the first 6-7 months of our engagement, so our planning abilities are limited. We also wanted to have first choice for our vendors. I think that engagement timelines are different for different couples. Long engagements just work for some people 🙂 You’re not a slow poke
Post # 9
Fiance and I will have almost had a three year engagment by the time we get married. We need the time to figure things out as we are condo owners and our families live far away.
Post # 10
You’re not weird for taking your time!! There’s a lot that goes in to planning a wedding, and you shouldn’t have to feel rushed to get it done as soon as possible! As long as you’re happy with your timeline, then who cares?! You’ll get to enjoy your planning process without feeling stressed to get it done so quickly!
Post # 11
@ama0219: You’re not taking your time, or planning too slow. (I say this with all kindness) but the other couples are going at a pace that suits them, that’s fine. Everytime you get annoyed at it, think of it this way, you are taking the time to build a foundation in your relationship with your Fiance, making sure you two can go through thick and thin together so that when you do get married, you can have a sigh of relief. While your friends might be fighting with their SO cause they haven’t figured out how to communicate yet.
(again, i’m not saying whether they can or can’t communicate, I’m just saying it takes time to learn about your SO, my bf and I have only been together for a year and 11 months, and plan on getting married later this year)
Post # 12
Fiance and I were together a little over four years when we got engaged. We’ll have been together for five when we get married. In that span of time, we’ve watched most of our good friends get married – one couple had gotten together a year or so after us and they were married last year. It’s not a race. Everyone moves at their own speed.
Post # 13
No, no rock for this puppy yet 🙁
Post # 14
@very marry: Most of them are the same age or a year older than me…. Not like six or seven years older or anything.