(Closed) Feeling Weird For Taking My Time

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Well, are all those other couples older than you?  My co-worker got engaged over the holidays and they are planning to get married in September of this year!  One reason is that they are older and want to have kids as soon as possible.  Throw babies into the equation and the timeline gets fast-forwarded.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think it matters. one of my very close friends met her man after I was already with Fiance but she got married a year before me. I have another friend getting married a month after me, she also met her man after me. Some people take it slower than others. I’m glad we took our time with things and have had enough time every stage of our relationship.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

LOL, Oneeleven, are you engaged to my co-worker?  😛

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@ama0219: Hi Date Twin! I understand how you feel. My Fiance and I got engaged November ’10 and are getting married May 19, 2012! We have been dating for 4 yrs and other couples we are friends with dated for far less time than us and are already married or getting married soon. I also have co-workers and not so close friends that have gotten engaged after us but getting married before us. I originally wanted a fall ’11 wedding but it did not work out well for FI’s close relatives to attend. We ended up pushing the wedding forward to May ’12. I know it must feel like you’re going too slow or your friends may be “one-upping” you, but you have to do what is best for your particular situation. Just think everyone will be looking forward to your big day b/c there are no other weddings surrounding your particular date… you will have all focus on your wedding day! Congrats!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Fiance and I are planning to have a 21 month engagement. We wanted to have a lot of time to plan and get things together. Plus, we are living half way across the country for the first 6-7 months of our engagement, so our planning abilities are limited. We also wanted to have first choice for our vendors. I think that engagement timelines are different for different couples. Long engagements just work for some people 🙂 You’re not a slow poke

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Fiance and I will have almost had a three year engagment by the time we get married. We need the time to figure things out as we are condo owners and our families live far away.

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

You’re not weird for taking your time!!  There’s a lot that goes in to planning a wedding, and you shouldn’t have to feel rushed to get it done as soon as possible!  As long as you’re happy with your timeline, then who cares?!  You’ll get to enjoy your planning process without feeling stressed to get it done so quickly!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ama0219: You’re not taking your time, or planning too slow.  (I say this with all kindness) but the other couples are going at a pace that suits them, that’s fine. Everytime you get annoyed at it, think of it this way, you are taking the time to build a foundation in your relationship with your Fiance, making sure you two can go through thick and thin together so that when you do get married, you can have a sigh of relief.  While your friends might be fighting with their SO cause they haven’t figured out how to communicate yet.

(again, i’m not saying whether they can or can’t communicate, I’m just saying it takes time to learn about your SO, my bf and I have only been together for a year and 11 months, and plan on getting married later this year)

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Fiance and I were together a little over four years when we got engaged. We’ll have been together for five when we get married. In that span of time, we’ve watched most of our good friends get married – one couple had gotten together a year or so after us and they were married last year. It’s not a race. Everyone moves at their own speed.

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