(Closed) Feelings about taking his last name

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 76
550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I was always very excited about getting married because I’ve had a pretty awful relationship with my father, and was looking forward to taking a new name. Except I am marrying someone who also has a pretty awful relationship with her father. We decided it made the most sense to pick a new name together.

I’m super close with my grandmother, and my fiancée also loves her, so we’re actually taking her maiden name: Webster (her marital name was long and would definitely get our kids made fun of). We both have pretty plain-jane surnames now so it doesn’t feel like a huge shift or anything. We’re very excited… And so is my grandma! 🙂 

Post # 77
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

This makes me sad too. I always thought I would until I actually got engaged and it became real. Mostly because my dad had all girls so after I change mine it will be gone forever. That just seems so bad but I guess thats life.

He is REALLY adamant about me changing it so I will and in the grand scheme of things its just a name. It just seems sad like the death of an era lol.

Post # 78
3723 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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serendipity24:  Sadness and some regret here. I hyphenated my name and wish I did not. I wish I had retained my name, plain and simple. While I use my new hyphenated name in my email sigs and written signature, I still introduce myself at “Rhody Gem” and not “Rhody Gem-Stone.”


Post # 79
2152 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I was really happy to take my husband’s name… I love my father and my family and don’t have any negative associations with my maiden name at all, but my husband’s name sounds great with my first name.. I really love it.. and I got used to it super quick! 


Post # 80
1038 posts
Bumble bee

I was happy to do it because I don’t like hypenathed last names and  I don’t want our kids to have ridiculously long or different last names. Also, I’m not particularly attached to my last name anyway..my first name goes well with DH last name so it wasn’t a huge deal.

Post # 81
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: Rocky Mountains-May 2017

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serendipity24:  I’m kinda sad to lose my last name. I love my heritage and all that. It’s funny that I’m going from a name no one can say or spell correctly to one that’s easier to say, but just as hard to spell. But having his last name makes me really happy at the same time. 

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