(Closed) Feelings after buying a wedding dress – is this normal?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I purchased my wedding dress last week and instantly got the panic fears. It’s completely normal because it is such a big purchase and such an important one at that. I don’t think it matters if anyone has seen it as long as your mom loves it and you love it, then that’s all that matters. 

FYI, for my first dress fitting I brought 9 people with me. It was overwhemling with so many different opinions. The next couple, I just brought my mom, my sister and my dad, which made things easier.

Don’t sweat it, your gut is always right! 

Post # 4
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4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@love0290:  Yeah. This feeling hasn’t gone away with me yet, and my wedding is OVER! My gut tells me that maybe I overlooked a “better for me” dress, but ultimately, I had the perfect day, and had an amazing time, and you know what? The dress doesn’t even matter. It’s just fabric. Memories are what count.

Post # 5
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389 posts
Helper bee

Buying the dress makes it all more real and the commitment in life you are making is probably what’s causing the anxiety.  I’m sure it’s beautiful on you.  But, if you have any doubts after your first fitting, do wear that one for the ceremony, and if you can swing it, buy a more couture evening dress to change in after dinner so you could dance the night away in.  Don’t worry, it’ll all be great!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I loved my dress initally. It was the best one for me.

Then I hated my dress right after I bought it. So I tried it on again and loved it. Then I forgot why I loved it, hated it, I tried it on, and loved it again. This happened non-stop for about 6 months. I’m lucky the dress was in the house!!

After my first fitting, I fell MADLY in love with it again. I’m so excited to wear it! Thank goodness, because the dress is at the seamstress so I can’t just try it on anytime I want anymore.

From reading through the Bee for a while, I think this is normal.

Post # 7
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ha! I just ordered my dress today as well. I’d tried on dresses at 2 different salons and then went to a third one to try on my top choice (which I’ve known for over 2 years is THE DRESS for me) and make a decision. And even though I know this dress is fabulous and its perfect for me, I still had a mini-panic attack when I left the store, receipt in hand. I called my fiance and he calmed me down enough to enjoy the purchase. 

I helped design my engagement ring, but my fiance paid for it. The dress is my first big wedding-related purchase. Sticker shock is to be expected. It’s different when you start investing in the wedding and can actually see it coming together. It makes everything a bit more real. Good luck! I’m sure you look stunning and beautiful in your dress. 

Post # 8
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Dress regret is definitely normal, but at the end of the day you bought it for a reason, and a dress is just a dress. I’m sure it’s a great one anyhow!

Me, I have some regrets, but that’s mainly due to the fact I chose one that was a bit out there and feared people would laugh at me. I still like my dress and well, people will talk and b*tch over your choices regardless

 

Post # 9
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it’s 100% healthy to feel weird about spending potentially thousands of dollars for something you will wear for 8 hours ;-). I had the exact same feeling!

Post # 10
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68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

When I got my first dress I felt exactly like you did..as soon as I walked out of the bridal store I felt nervous…So after about 2 months of feeling like this and going back and forth on loving it my mom, aunt and I went to look at dress again…And this time when I bought the new dress I havent had any bad feelings towards it…In fact its been 3 months and I can not wait for it to come in!!!! The way I knew it was my dress was when I would dream about my wedding and could see myself in the dress…In my original dress I couldnt see that…I hope your nerves go away though 🙂

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