Feelings day of

posted 2 months ago in Wedding Related
Post # 2
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1071 posts
Bumble bee

You really need to let go of the day. 

Your wedding is just one day in your life. It’s extremely normal not to remember your exact thoughts and feelings about a singular day months later, that’s just how memories work. That’s why we get photographers. 

Your wedding went well, you were happy and enjoyed it, and now you’re married. Focus on your marriage, enjoy your wedding photos, and move on. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

It’s been *months* now. You’ve been told the same thing many times now, in several threads. You need to stop this already or get help if you can’t. I suggest you see a therapist because your wedding day obsession is not healthy and suggests disordered thought processes.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper

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@sb1993:  

Yes, l do agree with pps. You really have taken nothing from the yards of commiseration, advice, suggestions and gentle  warnings from your last two posts on this. They were mostly focussed on having had too much to drink , now at least you are focussed on general feelings, which, idk, might be better? 
Just, for goodness’  sake OP , try a bit harder to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. It is not that hard once you get the habit ( l speak from long experience) . And get some professional help too, if this endless rumination is something you do about many things . I should think you are driving your new husband crazy with this if you persist in not attempting to deal with it. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA

Ok so I have purposely not commented on any of your threads as this issue is the gift that keeps on giving.  So I’m sorry but I’m going to be blunt here.  You have two choices accept that you enjoyed yourself so much and drunk yourself to oblivion or continue to beat yourself over the fact that you drunk yourself to oblivion.  But whatever you do can you leave Wedding bee out of this roller coaster of feeling sorry for myself fuckery.  It’s not cute, not hot and no one has time for all of this madness. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA

Oh and please stop making multiple post of the same issue that is yielding the same answer. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee

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@ricli:  you are probably the most empathetic poster on these boards, so when you are frustrated with a post, you know it’s bad!

OP, you need to get past this. Your wedding does not define you and all of these things ultimately do not matter.  Please shift your focus to the present and on your marriage.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@tinytimbo:  +1

This is why we spent good money on photos, and why we splurged for a videographer. No one remembers every thought and feeling from the past, thats just weird to even assume it’s something you’d remember. I personally have 18 million things in my brain and how I felt on X date in the past is not one of them. 

The wedding is over, enjoy your marriage

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA

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@sharpshooter:  So assuming that this post is real.  It is just plain odd that there is so much overfocus on something that happens all of the time.  Not uncommon for Brides to get wasted. But if her wedding was so important to her why did she keep drinking?  Idk. I never ever want to be mean but sometimes I question the validity of some of these post and feel like some Bees truly post because they are suffering and others post because they are searching for relevance by concocting stories that are not real or exaggerating situations in a way that yields the highest level of attention. Hence the frustration. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

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@ricli:  off topic, but hope you had a great birthday!

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

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@ricli:  “But whatever you do can you leave Wedding bee out of this roller coaster of feeling sorry for myself fuckery.”

 Best comment I’ve read in a really long time! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA

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@floridagirlblue:  oh wow!  Thank you. We had a really great time in San Francsico.   I’m struggling with being 53 a bit.  But I’m still alive and happy so I’m just trying to lead with that.  It’s just that time has flown so so fast!

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@echomomm:  Ayyy when I re read it it’s kind of harsh and clearly written out of frustration.  

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2020

I’m really just finding it hard to feel any sympathy for you at all when I wasn’t even able to have a wedding because of the pandemic.

Get over yourself. You’re married. Focus on that. Living in the past is ridiculous and unhealthy. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA

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@schmeebee85:  Wow. I’m so so sorry you didn’t have a wedding and your frustration is valid. 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

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@ricli:  As a PP noted, part of the reason it is such a great comment is because you are normally so kind. But there are times when even the most compassionate person is pushed beyond reasonable limits, and the ongoing issues with OP have risen to that level!

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