(Closed) Cold feet feelings every now and then?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Yes! I think it’s totally normal. FH and I have prepared ourselves SO much for this step, but every now and then I’ll get to thinking….oh my goodness. My life will never be the same after January 30th! It’s kind of a big deal. lol. But yeah, I totally feel ya. 

Post # 4
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420 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i’ve also been engaged about 4 months and i completely (gosh especially THIS week!!)  know how you’re feeling!  i don’t even want to open my wedding planning book!  or work on my invite list!  everything seems to be stressing me out concerning the wedding, i feel like once the holidays are over and we’re down to 5 months the excitement will pick up :o)

Post # 5
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You’re normal. 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’ve had those feeling too. Mine was when we closed on his house and moved him in.  It was like oh wow this is finally really happening!  The most exciting thing thus far was getting the sample of our invitations in the mail.  To see my vision come to life (had a graphics artist design them) and to see our names and date on paper was so much fun!  I can’t wait to mail them! 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I have cold feet about the idea of marriage even though I know I want to be with Fiance forever. I don’t think I’ve ever heard of anyone getting married without feeling like this!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Definitely normal. Marriage is a huge commitment and a big life change. If you went into it with starry eyes and not a moment’s hesitation, you probably aren’t taking it seriously enough!

Post # 10
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5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I am very much looking forward to getting married.  We’ve been engaged for 7 months (wow!) and have been together for almost 5 years, lived together for 4.

I am an event planner, so nothing feels “new” to me.  I did so much research before we even got engaged for other brides, that there was no “where do I start” feeling.  I’m overwhelmed at all the details though, and how fast everything adds up.

I wanted a destination wedding, but Fiance is very family oriented, and his grandparents couldn’t travel.  Part of my apprehensive feelings come from such a large wedding – I get nervous thinking about saying vows in front of 350 people, about 150 I don’t even know!

Post # 11
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18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It is completely normal!  No one really talks about how stressful planning a wedding can be (except here!) or having to combine two seperate lives into one.  Just try to keep doing things with your Fiance other than wedding planning so that you can keep up your relationship without feeling like everything is about the wedding.

Post # 12
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350 posts
Helper bee

Yes this is very normal.  I was very worried about the financial stuff specifically, because my husband is planning to go back to school and I had just finished paying of $50K in student loans. 

The day before the wedding, and the morning of, we were both basketcases.  We knew it didn’t mean that we loved each other any less, but um this is a HUGE life change – I get nervous before starting a new job, how could I not get nervous about this?!

After you get married, it won’t be an issue anymore (or at least it hasnt’ been for me.)

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Imagine being an encore bride or groom.  It’s even a bit more pronounced sometimes but we know how strong our love and committment is to each other and we get past that.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Shhhh I am definitely feeling it and I’m not even engaged yet!! I wonder if it’s because these are fairly difficult right now financially (temporary) or if it’s because i’ve been single for over 29 years and I quite enjoy it… sometimes i wonder do i REALLY need to be married lol!! then i look at M and melt and it’s like OF COURSE I DO! and then i waiver again.. sigh… it’s a very scary thing and i have been the one to bring up marriage since the initial conversation where he brought it up so now it’s almost like i’m back tracking or something like that… i mean forever is a long time, but i cannot imagine tomorrow without him, and the day after that.  when i think of it tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow it becomes a lot more settling than FOREVER..

Post # 15
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1103 posts
Bumble bee

Very normal, in fact I had a brief flash of it myself last night and felt sick in the stomach. It passed after a cuddle and a good nights sleep 🙂 If you’re interested in thinking more about it I’d recommend The Conscious Bride, it does a pretty good job of explaining why being engaged isn’t always as fun and carefree as we’d like!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh yeah!  We both have it.  I was feeling it pretty strongly and brought it up with him.  So glad I did!  Somehow knowing that he felt the same way made me feel so much better. 

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