- 5 years ago
Long time lurker, now have a question for all of you. I just received information from my FSIL/FBIL about their wedding this summer and I am feeling rather left out. Not invited to the dinner after the rehearsal, not invited the stagette (only wedding party and family is), they decided that I’m not family do I’m not allowed in any family pictures and a few other things but anyways… Now, let me start by saying I don’t want to be a part of their wedding, and I don’t want to be that person that kicks up a tantrum about feeling left out, I will suck it up and let them enjoy their big day but rather I was wondering for my wedding, how do I include my FSIL’s in my wedding without having them stand up for me?
<br />Little back ground here. My Fiance and I have been together for 10 years. We got engaged like a month after Fiance brother did. We didn’t want to rain on her (their) parade and have the weddings too close together (BIG family that would rather not have 2 weddings in 1 month of each other which was made very clear by FMIL/FFIL) We didn’t want to have to worry about when they booked their stage and doe, shower, bachelor parties etc so We decided that what was another year? We live together already and are common law so no biggie.
So, for our wedding FI’s sister, brother and Future Brother-In-Law are standing up for us, so I want to make the other SIL’s feel a part of the wedding and not feel excluded (Like I currently do). So what would you do? I will include them in pictures, I will have them at the rehearsal (will be going out for dinner). What else would you do? Have them over when I’m getting ready? This is now the second wedding that I have been excluded from and I hate the feeling, so if I’m feeling this way, others have to be too, so I want to include them in some way, shape or form since after all, we are all family!