(Closed) Feelings on moissanite?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 61
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Worker bee

I wear a moissy and the ethical reasons were definitely a perk but honestly it just annoys me that diamonds cost as much as they do considering they aren’t exactly rare. A diamond was in our budget but I’ve always considered alternate gemstones for my ring and the durability of moissanite is why I chose it. I understand that it’s not as hard as a diamond but it is durable enough for everyday wear. I have seen some overpriced moissanites but I feel mine was very reasonable and I’m completely happy with it. Nobody has ever asked if it’s real but I also don’t feel the need to tell every single person I come across that it isn’t a diamond. If someone asks, I’ll tell them but if they say they like my ring I just thank them and move on. I’ve compared my ring to diamonds and cz and I can’t tell the difference other than in certain lights, my moissy has a lot of fire.

Post # 62
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Helper bee

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nikkiv1313 :  

This. I have a huge 3ct moissy and people compliment my “diamond” all the time. LOL

Only a jeweller would be able to tell the difference and sometimes not even they can. 

Post # 63
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Busy bee

I personally really dislike moissanite. In my opinion it looks very similar to CZ with the glassy look/rainbow reflections. I much prefer the diamond look but I understand it has its place and there are many people who prefer it! I don’t mind if people have moissanite but I do mind when they lie about what it is, mainly because it’s very obvious.

 I am not trying to offend anyone, so I apologise if my post comes across that way. It’s good that not everyone wants the same thing! Moissanite is just not for me!

Post # 64
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Helper bee

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Beth7210 :  

Just like any other Bee, you are entitled to your opinion. You didn’t make snide remarks about anyone’s ring…you just shared your preferences which were asked for. 

Unfortunately, this is WeddingBee so I’m sure that someone will get her panties in a knot over your polite and honest post. 

Post # 65
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I have both a Diamond set and a moissanite and I love them both!!

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I love love love diamond because they’re so prettyyyyy hence why I willing to pay the price. For me no stone can compare to diamond sparkles yet.

But since my budget doesn’t allow, I’d like to get an OEC moissy RHR hopefully soon!!

Post # 67
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Bee Keeper

I think moissy is a great choice if you’re on a budget, same with lab diamonds. I just think that both are highly overpriced for what they are and I’m glad some of these other sellers are getting in on the action. I’m into natural stones; a lab stone, while beautiful, wouldn’t be mind-clean to me.

I certainly wouldn’t look askance at someone who had a moissy, or think, oh she must be poor. Frankly I’d probably be thinking that I wish I was that financially sensible.

The only thing that grinds my gears is when a moissy owner starts going on about the evils of the diamond trade and that’s why she got a moissy…..and the setting is a glitter bomb of diamonds. It’s really not necessary to shit on someone else’s choices in order to make yourself look more virtuous.

Post # 68
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Helper bee

I personally have a diamond. I wouldn’t be opposed to a moissanite since we would be able to afford a larger stone. I think it’s mainly my fiance who thought that he HAD to get me a diamond. 

Post # 69
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Helper bee

I think it’s interesting OP has people asking if her diamond is real. It just goes to show you that most people really can’t tell the difference between diamond/moissy/CZ/whatever. tongue-out 

They’re all pretty!

 

 

Post # 70
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Busy bee

Yesssssssssssssss! 

I always wonder why some bee’s claim they went the ethical route with their setting loaded with tiny diamonds! 

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sunburn :  

Post # 71
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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KittyPurry : nah, that’s just hope and wishful thinking…Many people irl are kind/ polite/ complimentary,  but notice that something is “off” about the large stone they’re seeing… Of course most aren’t going to *ask*!  They may not know *what* the stone is exactly, but they know what it probably isn’t… but no doubt some people are fooled too…  

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sunburn :  Great point.  Guess only the large (expensive!) diamonds are “unethical”! Lol

Actually the most ethical stones today may be lab made diamonds. However those may still be too pricey for sim buyers.  (Lightbox is probably hoping to attract some of that market though) It seems much of the moissanite today is produced or faceted in China or other poor countries…so not so ethical..

Post # 72
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2020 - Shirley Heights, Antigua

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sunburn :  

i don’t particularly care for the old “oh, Moissanite are great if you’re on a budget” opinion.  I think it’s rather rude and assuming.  We were not on a budget by any means when I chose my Moissanite… I already have my great grandmother’s Art Deco engagement ring (an old antique cut trio of diamonds) and my mother’s two carat near perfect diamond my father bought her back in the 70s in NYC…(she’s deceased)  but I was looking for something different for my own ring.  I liked the idea that platinum as an element is mined from areas of meteor strikes- as is Moissanite in its natural form.  I’m also a professional sailor by trade, my partner is a commercial pilot, and celestial navigation is meaningful to us both so I took the celestial theme and applied it to my ring.  Like I said, we weren’t on a budget, but I already had diamonds and I wanted something with a deeper meaning.  

 

I do agree however agree that it’s annoying to hear everyone crap on about the ethical practices of buying a Moissanite when 90% of them are in settings full of mined diamonds, lol… mine actually is as well…. it’s a major selling point, and it was for me but that is not why I chose Moissanite in the end.  I wear my other diamonds on my right hand and to be honest, I get the most compliments on the really old vintage ring more than I do my larger stones.  

Post # 73
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Helper bee

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mrstodd2bee :  Lab diamonds “may be too pricey for sim buyers”? Seriously? Do you think before you type or do you just let your haughtiness guide your fingers? That was so incredibly presumptuous and rude. You honestly just lumped all diamond alternative owners into one huge subset that you think desperately wants diamonds but can’t afford them?

I’ve said it before and I will say it again: Those who buy alternative stones have many reasons why they do. Price may factor in for some, but many just prefer the behaviour and look of certain stones. Diamonds are gorgeous but they aren’t for everyone. Just because one seeks out an alternative stone to a diamond doesn’t mean that person is a somehow-beneath-you-pauper who’s desperately gathering their pennies just so that they can buy a ring that will fool people into thinking that they’re on the diamond train. Not to mention, some people do struggle with finances and to imply that they are incapable of making a choice for themselves because lab grown diamonds are out of their reach because is ridiculous.

Engagement rings and the stones that are sometimes set in them are beautiful. They are all glowing, glittery, and shiny… but they aren’t all exactly the same. You constantly post about how differently moissanite behaves compared to a diamond, yet you refuse to truly acknowledge that some people prefer that different behaviour and chose the stone for reasons OTHER than trying to “keep up with the Joneses”. I like diamonds, I have diamonds, I did not want a natural diamond or a lab diamond for my engagement ring. Your diamond ring is pretty… that doesn’t mean I want it or value it. I chose moissanite for many reasons, price is just a bonus. Just stop being so disparaging about the choices of others. I know you try to make it seem as though you’re doing it in a “polite” way, but it’s so unbelievably far from polite and so far from tactful. It’s manipulative and has an air of condescension and smugness that is just plain tiring. 

Post # 74
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I just came to see if people were being shitty again and was thankfully not disappointed.

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I admit, I’m more of a diamond girl myself.  I think moissy is really beautiful for some people and in certain settings, but I guess I’m more attracted to “sparkle” rather than “fire?”  I think I just like the uniformity of the colors in the reflected light of diamonds better than the rainbows in moissy.  Nothing wrong with them though!

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