You should have an option for “Overwhelmed and Cranky” 😛
I’m happy, but I’ll be much happier when this is over haha!
I hated wedding planning so much that I straight up STOPPED two months after I started. Fiance wasn’t helping me much at all at that point, and I got so upset, since he was the one who wanted a bigger wedding in the first place.
I told my Fiance that I wanted to elope, and if he wanted a big (like 100 people) wedding, he would need to do the heavy lifting (book the venue, photographer, caterer, officiant, whatever we needed to make things work).
So he did!
It took a while for him to get the hang of things, but he’s doing SO WELL now that I’m just dazzled! He’s on top of everything and vendors really enjoy talking to him (after they are over the confusion of, this is the groom? Talking to me?)
I get to plan the smaller details, like invitations, decorations, schedules, gifts, etc. It’s really a load off my shoulders, and the part of the planning I enjoy anyway.
I wanted small private at first, too.
Then we got engaged, Fiance accidentally (no, really!) rejected my dream wedding, and I started planning this big awful typical NJ banquet hall thing that I so didn’t want. Once I told him what had happened with my dream idea we comprimised – we’d shoot for 60-70 people in a small location.
That didn’t work out (a barn venue we fell in love with tried to rip us off, really badly) SO, somehow we’re back at square one.
I realized it would make HIM happy to have a bigger wedding so we’re probably going to try for about 100 people, and in a almost-but-not-quite banquet hall. I am not completely crazy about it but since I don’t want a wedding at all and it’s important to him, I am just fine with the way things are going right now.
As long as he’s happy, and as long as we’re married by then end of it, I’m happy too.
Back up plan? Semi-elope, drag some family and friends along. We won’t need it, but it was part of our comprimise (makes me laugh how ridiculous we can get with it)
I may let me father walk me down the aisle. Maybe.
My mom deserves it, and she earned it, but I am not really sure how important it is to my father (who really shouldn’t feel entitled to any of my attention). Since my father wasn’t the best parent one could ask for, I had never expected to have him walk me down the aisle.
But honsetly that part isn’t really important to me so I’m not going to create too much drama about it. It’ll be over in two minutes and I’ll (hopefully) never have to do it again.
My mom’s feelings are a bit hurt, but I haven’t made a final desicion on who I want to walk with yet. We’ll see.