- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
here’s the deal. i get the feeling that my BMs aren’t too thrilled about being part of my wedding party. Here are a few examples:
1) I don’t talk about my wedding very often. In fact, I often keep quiet about it, because I just want to keep it simple and fun. But when I do talk about it with my BMs (when we’re out to dinner or something like that), they are just quiet about it or switch the subject. My case in point:
they NEVER ask how the wedding planning is going, nor do they ask if they can help. One time, the topic of wedding came up, and one of my BMs decides this is also the appropriate time to talk about her wedding.. to be taking place in FIVE years! and that she has a venue already?! REALLY? mine is in FIVE MONTHS! We’re talking about yours in FIVE YEARS?? and she’s already married (civil)! She just wants a bigger wedding!
2) I’ve only emailed my BMs maybe.. like 3 times since I’ve started my planning full on. And I do not get a response. For example, the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. I wanted them to all wear the same dress (we already went Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping. Another stressful event, but a whole different topic). I gave them the style number, the color and where to get it. I ask that they get it by end of May because it takes about 3-4 months to come in. NO RESPONSE. So far, only my Maid/Matron of Honor has ordered her dress (she’s my sister). My Darling Husband knows about this and pretty frustrated at the BMs for not helping me and says if they don’t order their dress by the given deadline, they will be removed from the wedding party 🙁
3) My photographer recently posted our E-session pics on their blog and I was pretty excited about it. So I sent the link to them, because of course.. I was EXCITED! (weren’t you??) And no one responded — again. Oh, except for the same Bridesmaid or Best Man that wanted to started planning her wedding in five years, once again — made it all about her. Saying something like.. YOU HAVE A GREAT PHOTOGRAPHER. MAYBE WE SHOULD HIRE THEM TOO WHEN WE DO OUR WEDDING. Whaaaattt???! its about YOU, AGAIN???
Am I being too sensitive? I honestly swear (pinky swear!) am not the type of bride that talks about her wedding night and day. I don’t! but when I do, is it too much to ask for some opinions, help, etc? Funny thing is.. the groomsmen (and their girlfiends and their wives even) and other friends of ours have offered to help with the planning numerous times!!! Now i feel like a fool, because I thought they were all really good friends of mine (I’ve known them at least 10 years!)
should i wait and pray they wil be more involved as the date gets closer? or… as my FH would say.. just cut them from the wedding party.. PERIOD.