Post # 1
joke…or was i?
I dont know what has got into them they are always trying to outdo eachother. I have 2 bridesmaids- 1 is my best friend and the other is my fiances brothers girlfriend. Both these girls work together.
I am receiving numerous texts from either one with she said this and she said that, so and so is upset at this and so and so is upset at that.
I asked one bridesmaid to come with me on Saturday for my dress fitting but she said she cant come because hes busy with her boyfriend (she apparently never sees him even though she stays at his 4 nights of the week) so i asked the other bridesmaid if she is free which she is.
I later received a text from the first bridesmaid asking if i can change the date for my fitting to the 29th because she is free that day. The reason i am going now is im 10 weeks pregnant and need my first fitting asap to order the dress closest to the size i will be come the wedding after baby is born- waiting 3 weeks is not an option. I told her this.
i came into work to an email from her saying shes really upset that i asked bridesmaid 2 to come with me because she apparently doesnt care about the dress as much as she does ???
this bitchyness is doing my head in- what can i do!
i told her i cant ask one Bridesmaid or Best Man and not the other and its not my fault shes busy that day.
im going out tonight for dinner with both of them ahhhhh!
Post # 3
Yikes, the drama! Could you just sit them down and explain explain to them how this is putting a damper on your planning experience? It’d probably be awkward, but it might help.
Post # 4
@ChocolateLime: Wow. I’m so sorry to learn they’re behaving so poorly. Put a stop to it immediately before any more time transpires and before you’re too close to the wedding date to make changes and handle it amongst all the other pieces coming together. Sit them both down and politely but firmly ask them to stop trying to out-do each other, putting you in the middle and themselves first, and stressing you out over their own insecurities. Don’t get into details, don’t get into a debate, just request that they stop and consider your needs for peace among them and toward you as the bride. If they cannot get their acts together and behave, they’re no longer needed in the bridal party. Theirs is a position of honor to make YOU feel comfortable and supported now and on your special day. If they can do, great! If they can’t manage themselves and be considerate of your best interests, they’ve no business being in the bridal party.
Post # 5
I’m confused. Why are you having your dress fitting 11 months before your wedding? I understand your pregnant, but I only started my dress fittings 6-8 weeks before my wedding.
As for your bridesmaids talk to them about how everything is making you feel.
Post # 6
It’s very rare that your “post-baby” body is remotely similar to your “pre-baby” body; my weight was within ten pounds, but things had definitely shifted. Could you look for styles you like now, and consider not doing your fittings until after you’ve delivered and had a chance to lose a bit of the baby bulge? Of course, I gained 65 pounds having a 6 pound baby, so I might be the exception on this one!