- 7 years ago
My First Post… Here goes!
My college friend, whom we will call Sharky, was engaged last year to her man of almost a decade, and I am very happy for them. Sharky wants a nontraditional wedding. She will have an early wedding and reception, then a softball game. The bridesmaids are expected to decorate their own shoes and there will be a dance-off at the wedding. This is the perfect representation of who they are as a couple. I am one of four BM’s; the other 3 are sisters.
When I was asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, Sharky’s Fiance told me I would be the voice of reason. Uh oh.
We went bridesmaid dress shopping at 3 different stores all in one day. The group included Sharky, her Fiance, and her mom, but only one sister. Sharky is so worried about what everyone thinks that she asked everyone’s opinion, which is thoughtful, but a potential disaster.
The sister made complaints about the dresses she didn’t like… in a very loud way. She talked about how they showed her bellybutton, that she hated the fabric (which was taffeta. But remarkably ALL of the dresses were taffeta), and complained like she was a bride.
The sister is a teenager, and the Maid/Matron of Honor. Granted, she actually asked for the position. I know appearance is very important for a teen, but I am worried that Sharky will lose her vision.
Sharky chose a beautiful Alfred Angelo dress, which her sisters all vetoed. She then chose a cheaper DB dress that they FB messaged me to tell me that they hated. I just told them that the dress will look better when altered and with jewelry on, make-up and hair, etc. Granted, I hate this dress with a passion, and think it is matronly and inappropriate for a summer wedding (layers of taffeta? really? usually they just layer tulle), but I kept my mouth shut because that’s what my friend picked.
Sharky tells me horror stories about her family butting into her wedding planning and making diva-like demands, and I am worried she is losing her battles. the bridesmaids dresses were a huge catastrophe, and it took us months before we had a dress, due to complaining and bickering between BM’s. When Sharky picked one, I went out and bought it the next day, just so it couldn’t change, nor could DB charge me ridiculous “rush” fees (because 5 months before a wedding is not enough time /sarcasm)
She’s lost her voice in this whole situation.