(Closed) Fellow introverts… How do you deal with the awkwardness in this situation?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@MrsNewDay:  Yeah I’m sorry I have no good advice for the showers. Just talk to people you know, hope they introduce you to people and hit the buffet

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Been there.

 

I usually talk to anyone that looks just as awkward as I do….or I find the family pet and entertain myself! Yeah…Im that girl.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@MrsNewDay:  I’m very an introvert too. If I was in your situation, I would probably cling to my SO a bit. I’d also ask him if he knows of any ladies I might get along with and have him introduce me at these weddings. That way he can steer you clear of the snobby ones and towards women whom you are more likely to get along with.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MrsNewDay:  one of the gifts my social butterfly boyfriend has that I lack is the ability to pretend to give a shit. I think that is one of the main reasons I have so much trouble with small  talk.

 

 Im sure my upbringing is a factor as well. My father was a big fan of “don’t speak unless an adult speaks to you first” and “don’t talk unless you have something to contribute.”

 

I know that may sound harsh, but I think there is some wisdom to it: I observe SO many people who talk constantly about nothing at all, either because they enjoy the sound of their own voice or feel like they *need* to be talking at all times. I cannot TELL you how many times a week someone says to me “why aren’t you talking” and I respond with “because I don’t have anything to say.”

 

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MissWitty:  OMG I LOVE THIS DOG

Me too, me too.

Post # 44
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Helper bee

@MissWitty:  Ahhhh I am you! I love befriending the dog and bothering the shit out of it (with love!)

Fortunately, my boyfriend is about as socially awkward and introverted as I am so he’d keep me close with his family because he knows otherwise I’ll leave him to sink or swim with mine.

Honestly, if the girls my age were acting rude I’d definitely gravitate toward the older ladies. They can be very fun and most of the older women I know have a keen awareness of when someone feels uncomfortable and will seek to make you feel welcome.

I have found that by forcing myself out of my comfort zone over and over again I am getting much better!

Post # 45
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Sugar bee

I am such an introvert naturally although you would never know it because it’s not obvious.  I am at my best when I am by myself.  I dont like small talk.  But what I have learned is that people love to talk about themselves.  Find an older person and I guarantee that just asking one question will most likely turn into an entire conversation.  Older ladies especially tend to not have the hangups that some much younger ones have.  Then again, I am also comfortable sitting by myself and I am that girl that would get on the phone with another girlfriend to pass the time.

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