(Closed) Female issues.. possibly TMI

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

First of all, I’m so very sorry that this is happening to you! I don’t have any direct experience with this other than to say that when I’ve gotten cuts or cracks down there, it’s been because everything was way too dried out. And that basically was a yeast infection, which you’ve already been cleared for.

The only things that I can say (and you’ve probably tried them all at this point) — if you’re using lubricant or condoms, switch brands in case you’re allergic to something there. You may want to switch laundry detergent brands, and not use dryer sheets with your panties (this one actually helped me, I think). Make sure that you’re wearing 100% cotton panties and that they are loose fitting and comfortable. And finally, I’m sure you’re doing this with the UTI and all, but drink lots of water and pee on a regular basis.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Lyndzo:  Ugh, that’s what I figured. At this point, I definitely WOULD go see a gynecologist. They may have more insight/more familiarity with what it could possibly be. I really hope you get some relief soon!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Lyndzo Plain Cranberry Juice and plain yogurt, LOTS! That’s where I would start if I were  you. Also, do you make powdered drinks? Or use those powdered drinks you add to water.  These might be a cause as well.  Everyone’s body is different but there are somethings you ingest that can be a trigger for UTI.

Also, how do I say this politely and not offensive, he needs to be squeaky clean down there. NO lotions, perfumes, etc. for either of you…HUGS!!! I feel for you and I hope you get this figured out.  It’s definitely worth it to see a specialist, maybe they can find what this is, the cause and treat it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i would definitely go to a gynecologist!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would stop using anything with fragance until you figure out what’s going on.  I had a dry skin issue where my body wash was irritating me SO bad.  I felt like I was on fire at one point.  Now I use Dove Sensitive soap. It’s helped TONs.

How scary and frustrating.  I’ve had my few share of problems and I know the frustration.  I hope you get an answer soon so you can feel better.  (hugs)

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

If you wear briefs or anything tight with elastic in it, stop…I wear the boycut shorts since that way I don’t get any tight binding elastic exposure on my skin…which was irritating the hell out of it

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Lyndzo:  I am also a frequent UTI sufferer! It realllly really sucks, I swear sometimes I can just think about getting a UTI and it will happen. Anyways, here’s what I have tried and what I recommend for you (I am a med student & Hopefully a future OBGYN). 

PEE RIGHT AFTER SEX! No cuddling, kissing, etc. until you make a bathroom trip. Does it suck that it completely ruins the moment? Yes. Is it worse than getting a UTI? No, in my opinion. 

Drink a big glass of water after sex, maybe even 2 or 3 to really keep fluids moving through your kidneys/bladder. 

I have started taking a ‘prophylactic’ antibiotic after sex- just popping one right after the deed usually keeps a UTI away. Ask your doctor about doing this. I know some people who actually take antibiotics every day, just to prevent UTIs. 

Warning: this paragraph gets a little tmi: Make sure he and you are ‘clean’ down there before doing the deed. If my hubby is has been outside doing yard work, etc. All day- he knows now he needs to shower first if he wants some. Lol–warm sweaty balls are a bacteria playground, so it’s best if his junk is clean. Same for your junk if they have gotten really sweaty or its just  been a while since your last shower. Also- a lot of UTIs are caused by bacteria that are found in your poo- and since females’ #1 and #2 orifices are so close, the friction & rubbing of sex can push bacteria hanging around your #2 hole after going #2 earlier that day right up your #1 hole. My solution is keeping cottonelle ‘wet wipes’ close to the toilet and using them after any #2s to get it really nice & clean down there. 

Speaking of toilet habits, it is important you wipe front to back. Try to think of it as you always want any motion down there directed away from your urethra (aka your pee hole, which actually lives inside your vaginal orifice-brief anatomy lesson).  Any time there is movement toward your urethra (sticking ANYTHING up there-a male part, sex toy, finger, seriously anything except a tampon) you need to pee to flush out any bacteria that may have made its way up your urethra with whatever went inside your vag, by peeing. No douching-this messes up the environment your body has set up to keep infections at bay (remember, whenever possible, nothing moves towards your urethra). 

As far as these little cuts — the skin around your lady parts is very fragile. Any excess friction or irritation can cause small tears down there (which is what your problem is kind of sounding like to me, but it’s hard to tell without actually seeing it), and anytime your skin is opened up and exposed to the environment down there, guess what? Your body will mount an inflammatory response to heal it. Four parts of inflammation- redness, swelling, pain, and heat. If you add bacteria to that mix (because remember, our number one and number two parts are like a bacteria playground) this will make the inflammation even worse. So how do you fix this? 

LUBE LUBE AND MORE LUBE. Also, if you shave and/or he shaves, prickly stubble can really hurt & rub. The shaving alone can cause irritation down there, and when anything rubs on it, it can make it worse. Are you using any type of shaving cream or strange lotions down there? It’s best to avoid putting anything with harsh perfumes, etc. down there. It is also possible you could be a allergic to something, which could be causing inflammation as well. It might be something on you or possibly something from him- soaps, lotions, etc. Do you use latex condoms? A lot of people are allergic to those too! Just about any type of foreign substance that is coming in contact with your parts down there could be causing an allergic reaction. Analyze what all comes in contact  with your lady parts and start paying attention to when you have these flare-ups.

. I can get really irritated down there when my stubble starts to grow back after shaving. A godsend for me has been hydrocortisone cream with aloe. It is safe to rub on all your OUTER lady parts (remember- nothing towards your urethra!) and is an inflammation reliever, so it makes it feel much much better down there. Ask your doctor or pharmacist about it if you have any concerns. 

Also-how are your underwear? They can rub too sometimes and thongs can allow bacteria to sit & multiply right close to your urethra, then when you move around, friction can shove the bacteria right up there, hello UTI. I have completely switched to wearing comfy briefs b/c thongs would irritate my lady parts so bad sometimes that it just felt sore down there. Sometimes I feel less sexy, but my down there never hurts as much. Key is just breathable, loose-ish undies. 

 

I apologize for writing a ton of information, I just really feel for girls who suffer down there because I know how bad it sucks!!! Good luck, and remember if you aren’t getting good answers from your doctor, there is no shame in getting a second opinion or specifically talking to an OBGYN or urologist. Sometimes primary care docs just don’t know as much about complicated lady problems because they just don’t deal with them enough. Getting this many UTIs and having so much irritation down there is not normal, and your doctor should be offering you more advice than just ruling out infections/STDs!! 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have had these same problems before.  I have now changed to all cotton underwear (make sure that they don’t have an elastic band around the edge or pretty lace as often that is made of something other than cotton) changed my laundry detergent (I cannot use any of the nice brand name detergents, only Dreft or some generic brands)  Also, I found that I was alergic to toilet paper.  I can only use Non-dyed, non-fragrance kinds.  Also, the nice soft fluffy kind is out of the question.  Scott brand toilet paper is the only one that I do not have any problems with.  My Fiance hates it and says it feels like sandpaper, but I would rather sand paper than cuts from allergies. 

Since I have made these changes, I have only had trouble once and it was when I was away and using someone elses t.p.

Good luck!

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh, and I forgot to add a bit about cranberry juice. I would seriously stay away from any type of cranberry juice, it doesn’t have enough of the cranberry substance in it to really do much, plus any sugar in it and the fact that it makes your urine very acidic can be irritating to your bladder even with no infection. If you want to do cranberry something, try the AZO cranberry tabs. they pack more cranberry good stuff in without all the sugar. I used to take these daily, but I would still get UTIs nonetheless so I stopped. Seriously the only thing that has worked for me is taking an antibiotic every Time after I have sex. No it’s not the best antibiotic practice, but my doctor prescribed it to me that way. Kind of like a desperate times call for desperate measures scenario, if you take the antibiotic early enough after sex, it should do a good job of keeping an infection away. When you wait until you actually have a UTI, there is so much bacteria built up that you have to take a few days worth to actually kill all of the bacteria. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Lyndzo:  Why did you have leftover antibiotics?  You need to finish the bottle.  Do you do that often?  

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@cowgirlace:  Such a thoughtful response!  I’m sure OP will appreciate your insight and knowledge.

OP, I actually can NOT use lube…that’s what helps cause any UTI symptoms or yeast infections for me.  Do you use lube; could that be the case? Also, I agree with PP’s on yogurt, it’s surprising what wonders it does.

Definitely see the gyno for the cuts…I’ve never heard that before!  Hope you figure it out and soon!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@cowgirlace:  I know you’re stilli in med school, and I’m not asking for medical advice per se as my dad’s a retired physician and I could ask him but still it’s lady business-but, how do you personally feel about plain yogurt down there for UTI relief?

 

I used to have not the same problem, but in additon to UTIs I was experiencing PAIN, intense PAIN down there. Like everytime I took a step, it’d irritate me down there. No diseases, doctors were stumped. They thought it was laundry detergent causing irritaion. I’ve always had sensitve skin so never use scented laundry detergent. Cranberry juice helped a little. And I never wore thongs, only boyshorts and bikinis to begin with. I found out it was the water!! Yes, the water was irritating my hooha. The pain would come after I shower (and again I only use non scented wash like dove unscented). While I couldn’t change the water of my apt while in law school, my doctor recommened I switch to Summer’s Eve sensitve body wash. It helps to restore the PH down there, which can become imbalanced from sex, activity, and water! Let me tell you, it’s been a LIFESAVER!!! Now, that’s the only thing that touches my lady bits, and in addition to the other practices previously mentioned (100% cotton boy short, hiphugger, or bikini only panties), no condoms, pee after sex, yogurt every now and again, free & clear laundry detergent), I am pain AND UTI free!

ETA: We actually DON’T use lube. It irritates me down there.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Mrs.Elivs:  I have never tried plain yogurt myself, I don’t like the taste of it at all, lol.. but I have heard of a lot of women eating it. The AZO cranberry tabS actually have probiotics in them, which would be what the benefit of eating plain yogurt would be. However, the same probiotics that are good for your gut are not necessarily the same probiotics that are good for your bladder/vag, so I don’t know how well they actually work. If something seems to be working for you though, by all means continue it! 🙂

Unfortunately, I think the key to UTIs/irritation down there is trying everything under the sun until you find a regime that works for you. 

I use the pure romance lube called ‘just like me’ and it has been a lifesaver. It is the nicest non-irritating lube I have found (thank God for a bachelorette pure romance party LOL!), and for me, if there is less friction, I seem to not get as irritated and not get a UTI. But, that probably is in combination with all the other things I have been doing. Like I said before too, hydrocortisone cream with aloe is my new BFF for calming down irritation after I already have it. 

On another note, why the hell do you guys have it so easy?! Ugh its complicated being a female. We got the shaft on almost everything sex-organ related, lol! 

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