(Closed) Female Pastor?

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 46
1443 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow, what century are we in?  I was married in 1989, and I requested a female for our ceremony.  This post makes me feel like we’ve regressed in the last 25 years.

Post # 47
2521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

LCMS churches don’t typically allow it, but ECLA do.  Personally, I think asking for a male pastor would sound kind of judgemental of the ECLA church.  You get to choose what church to get married in, but you really have to respect their beliefs.  If it is that important to you, you should get married in a LCMS church  

Post # 48
2843 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


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Punkin25:  I would say the majority of churches do not allow women pastors/priests.  The Catholic Church is the biggest (Christian) church in the world.  It has a strict males only policy.  I think it goes back to the apostles being men.  Perhaps it also relates to the passages in the New Testament regarding women teaching men.  The Southern Baptist Convention is, I believe, the largest Protestant group in the US.  It does not allow female pastors or elders.  It appears there is one sect of Lutheranism that does not allow.  I think probably female pastors are still in the minority on the whole.  Especially when you lump large denominations, like catholics and baptists in there……

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 8 months ago by  NavyBee.
Post # 49
3038 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m part of the Swedish Church, so Evangelical Lutheran, my husband on the other hand doesn’t belong to any fait at all. However, we’ve both attended services in my grandmothers’ church when we’ve been in Sweden and most of the times the minister has been this wonderful lady that we both really like. For our wedding we really wanted her to officiate the ceremony. As it turns out, the church only had one minister in service at a time during the summer (we got married in August), so we just got assigned the one that was working during that period (a man). You’ve mentioned interim pastors at the church you’re getting married at, so perhaps they simply don’t have a large pool of people that can officiate for the period you’re getting married?

As for the issue about your dad – do you really think this would be such a deal breaker for him that he would cause a scene or get so upset you would fear for his health? I think those would be the only reasons why I would bring up the subject of potentially switching to a man to perform the ceremony.

Post # 50
8027 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think you picked a church and you go with their beliefs.  If you want it a different way, then you need to go to another church that more closely aligns with your way of thinking.  Having your own beliefs is fine, but that doesn’t mean the church needs to bend to your will when they have their own way of going about things.

Post # 51
3110 posts
Sugar bee

I’ve read John’s Gospel.  The word of God certainly isn’t the Bible.  The word of God is Jesus.  And Jesus only gave two rules – the bit about loving God with all your heart and soul and loving your neighbour as yourself.  He said nothing about treating women as second class citizens.  He may have had his reaons for choosing 12 fishermen but that didn’t mean he excluded women.

I personally have waited 52 years for equality and I’ve run out of patience with people dragging their feet about the issue, particularly those who give religious reasons that consolidate a 19th century patriarchal colonialist view of the world that attempts to fossilise the roles of men and women rather than embracing people’s individuality and humanity regardless of gender. 

Okay, now that I’ve offended everyone, what do I think?

You have to stand up for your views but you also have to decide whether this is the right time to do so.  I understand completely why you might not want to make your wedding day a battleground but I also know that one day someone has to do it.

I think that you and your future husband need to discuss what you want to do and then present a united front.  It is your wedding and so you jointly need to decide what you would like to happen.  I think that you will need to talk to the female pastor to find out whether you like her or not.  Can you trust her to do a good job?  Is she sympathetic and empathetic?  Is she a good speaker?  Do others recommend her?  Will she help you have a meaningful wedding ceremony and will she consider your wishes?  

Think of her as a person rather than a specific gender and then make your decision.

Post # 52
7638 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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MusicLove716:  In answer to your first question, “Is a female pastor biblically correct?” – many, many bible-believing Christians say “yes”. Look up the organisation “Christians for Biblical Equality” http://www.cbeinternational.org which has many prominent Christians as members. For a single article explaining why female leaders are appropriate, and arguing against the traditional “proof texts” which oppose female pastors, see this article on their site: http://www.cbeinternational.org/?q=content/bible-and-gender-equality .

The argument, in short, is (a) there are many examples of female leaders in the bible, (b) there are only 2 bible texts opposing female preachers (one in 1 Corinthians and one in 1 Timothy), and these two passages are not as clear-cut as many people make out. 

If you’re still not comfortable, then your only option is to go to another church, in my opinion.

Post # 53
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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MusicLove716:  Maybe since you are so for woman’s rights, this is God’s way of giving you a strong woman to complete your ceremony? 

Post # 54
30 posts
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Church

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MusicLove716:  I don’t have a problem with female pastors, although I have always pictured a male pastor at my wedding.  Why does your Fiance have to convert?  You are both Christians, just under different subsets of Christianity.


PS.  There are many different DENOMINATIONS in the CHRISTIAN RELIGION.  Baptist, Episcopal, Penetcostal, Presbyterian, Catholic are all subsets i.e. DENOMINATIONS of the SAME RELIGION. 

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