Female Perspective Please- Engagement Stealing Spotlight?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 151
2881 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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socalwaves :  I haven’t had the chance to post until now, but please realize how strong you are.  I really think you would have had a lifetime of heartache if you had married this woman.

I commend you for being so supportive of her anxiety, but with each update, I got the impression that she was using it as an excuse to treat people badly.  I have a SIL that does that and it drives me crazy.  She and my brother have only been married  8 months and they’ve had a really rough going.  He’s close to his breaking point and I’m glad you were able to see your ex’s manipulative ways.

Continue to stay strong.  You’ll have days where you may wonder if you did the right thing and that’s pretty normal.  When you feel that way remember all the things you told us.  Time will heal all wounds.

Post # 152
2183 posts
Buzzing bee

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socalwaves :  I refuse to say I’m sorry for you…because you’ve just made the best possible decision for the rest of your life. I know you’re hurting, and healing takes time, but lord have mercy I am just so happy for you right now. Imagine what your LIFE would’ve looked like had you married her. Imagine having CHILDREN with a woman like this, only for her to start showing her true colors once she knows you cannot leave her without severe consequences. 


You’ve just escaped by the skin of your teeth. You will look back on this day—and smile.


ETA: I rarely say this, because it’s rarely true…but you’re a special exception: the next lady you find will be so, SO lucky to have a considerate, emotionally-tuned-in, mature, and thoughtful man like you. You truly deserve nothing but the best. You’re a real catch!

Post # 153
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Sounds like things really spiraled out of control fast… probably not what your ex intended. 

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